DP moved in last week and this weekend his DSs are staying here for the first time. It's only the second day and I know I need to give it time but right now I just want to sob. I feel like my house has been taken over and as much as I'm glad that they feel at home they're driving me crazy! I keep telling myself it's not their fault- it's just what they've been allowed to get away with before and they don't know any different. I don't feel it's my place to say anything to them but DP is reluctant to as he feels so guilty about 'ruining their lives' (I'm pregnant which was very unplanned).
I know I shouldn't let this get to me but I'm tired of having to wipe the toilet seat before I use it because it's covered in wee, I'm tired of hearing 'da-ad, da-ad, daaaa-aaaad....DAAAAAAAAAAAD!' when they want a drink brought to them (he runs around for them like he's their slave), I'm tired of DP asking them to do something and them saying 'nope!' and him not being more assertive. I'm tired of him giving into their every demand because they will nag otherwise. I'm tired of feeling so frustrated at them because they're just kids and it's not their fault.
This morning DSS2 asked if he could open up a Mr Potato head toy that was given to me for the baby - DP said 'go on then!' and when I asked him what he was doing he said that the baby would be too young to play with it anyway and we'll get it another. It was opened up and taken apart and shoved back in the box within 5 minutes and I know the baby will be too young for it but it really got to me. I don't know if I have to keep everything anyone gets the baby hidden away now. It's so petty I know but it's been like this all day - after specifically telling them to be careful with my laptop they spilled squash over it - it's fine but I just wish they would have a bit of respect for things and I wish DP would just say something every so often rather than giving me the 'oops!' look.
DP is also practically ignoring me so they don't feel left out and has sent me upstairs to bed so I can rest and has said he'll bring supper up to me too. Whilst it's a lovely thought I really feel like he just wants me out of the way. Earlier I asked if we could all do something together tomorrow but he informs me they're going swimming. I know it's important for them to spend time together but I also think he should stop separating us.
I'm sorry this is so long and really quite petty, I just needed to write it down before I scream.
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