I posted awhile ago about how my DP had to leave our home and stay with his parents when he had the SC due to his controlling and manipulative ex, since then things have settled, he has spoken to his ex and told her that things are changing and he will no longer be leaving his home and that our home is also the childrens home so they will be staying here, she initially stopped all contact, took mobiles away and told SC that daddys 'whore' was taking him away from them and he cared more about me than them (they are 13 and 9), but after a few weeks has calmed down (she is seeing someone so wanted rid of the children this week so they could go away).
DP picked them up on Saturday and as we agreed has been staying with them at his parents but we have spent the days togther (all of us) going out, spending the day at our house baking and watching DVD's, walking the dog etc. The children felt comfortable with this arrangement however know that next time will be staying at dads house overnight too!
Basically everything is going great, I'm happy, DP is happy and most importantly the children are happy BUT exw has been phoning me and being quite spiteful, she has reduced me to tears several times and if I don't answer she leaves abusive voicemails, if I barr her number she uses a different one and changing my number isn't an option for various reasons, even if I did she would still be able to find out new one as it would be online for work purposes! I seem to have stopped it for now by telling her that if she rang me again I would have her charged with harressment, that was yesterday morning and she hasn't rang since.
DP doesn't know about the calls and I really don't know whether to tell him or not, he will insist on ringing her and I'm afraid it would blow up, they are not capable of being adult and rational with each other and it would become a huge issue.
My mum thnks he should know and would be hurt if he found out I hadn't told him and I just want to keep everyting going smoothly now that it seems to finally be sorting itself out, what would you do?
Sorry its so long didn't want to drip feed
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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 16/02/2012 09:11
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