since i met my now hubby 10 years ago when his son my step son was 2 ive worked to have a great relationship with him and we enjoy days out shopping having lunch going to theme parks with my bio kids also and his mother has often made snide comments to me from time to time when i pick him up that from the amount he talks about me she thinks he prefers me to her! now i know its not true as my son has a stepmum who is also gud to him but kids love no one more than their mum, but i see his mum must be saying something to him as he will kiss and cuddle me and tell me he loves me in our house but when we drop him home if i go to cuddle him he will go cold and have one eye on his house as if he is thinking he doesnt want his mum seeing him showing me any affection which i understand as i think as a child if shes making comments he might think if she sees us cuddling he will get it even more!!
my problem - am i overstepping? and gud or bad i want your replies, if my stepson is ill i will to to his house with lucozade, paracetemol, and a treat to make him feel better, hes overjoyed i do this and will cuddle me at the door until his mum comes out then he pulls back like im a stranger, when hes at our house at the wkend i go shopping often taking him along, if he sees owt he likes il say get it then and take it home - its normally carton drinks, smoothies, fruit and such for school which he wants but his mum doesnt get so he asks me to buy them, i sent him home this wkend with a box of cookie crisp (i know not best but he loves them - bogof in sainsburys so free one was his - some vitamins and smoothies and choc he wanted and his mum has rang tonight after i dropped him raging "who the f do you think you are are you trying to replace me or what" i replied we had gone shopping and he had asked for the stuff he had but she was adament that i was implying by sending him home with stuff he asked for that she was a bad mother and i was trying to buy my stepsons love by getting him what he wants!!! in reality me and my ss went shopping and he said can i have this and that pls and as i love him i just said yes?
my question is and pls answer truthfully am i overstepping as a stepmum doing this?
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quest12 · 27/11/2011 00:40
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