my DSS came to live with us last year after untenable situation at home with his mum. Since then (and I know she is struggling in coming to terms with the situation), she has behaved appallingly towards him. sent him many many text messages telling him what an ill-behaved and disrespectful child he is to have abandoned her, that she has hardly any money as a result as he has caused her income to drop, that he is not welcome at her house, that she doesnt consider him family any more, didnt want to see him at Christmas etc. etc... He has actually handled everything pretty well but it obviously is really upsetting for him. I am not sure at what point we step in. DH's approach is simply to ignore her - she used to send similar kind of messages to him - now she is directing it to her son.
She does then sometimes send him messages saying she loves him and wants to see him straightaway but this is confusing for him. He has seen her a number of times since leaving but when he does she ruins it by crying and shouting at him and berating him. DH and I are tempted to suggest to him that he blocks her number on his phone. Not to stop contact entirely but to stop this insidious bullying. If she wants to speak to him she can call our house. DSS ignores her messages apparnetly, where possible but it's still distressing for him.
I'd be grateful for any thoughts.
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ladydeedy · 04/03/2011 16:29
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