I've learned a lot from lurking on here and found this board extremely informative and helpful and first of all want to say thank you - it's made me feel often that I'm not the only one!
Now I just wondered if I could get some advice from the more experienced. I've been with my DH for 4.5yrs, married for one. He has 2 children - 12yo DSD and 9yo DSS.
I get on really well with them both despite the usual issues with the exW that everyone seems to have re: money, manipulation etc (not worth going into here). We have them every other weekend, yes they have their moments but on the whole everything is good.
I'm due to give birth to my first child in the next few weeks. They're both excited and have had a big part in things like choosing the pram, helping with names, they even came to visit the nurseries with us on open days and gave scores out of 10 (i'm going straight back to work unfortunately).
What I want to know is whilst this all seems great, I'm scared that it may not continue. Especially with DSD who will be entering her teens, may not appreciate being woken in the night etc. I'm also worried their mum will turn them against the child saying their Dad loves baby more. There's no foundation for this but I just know what she's like, she'll say anything to get her way even if it means emotionally hurting them.
I went to my parents this weekend to give DH time with DSS and DSD to explain they're not being replaced and they'll always be just as important to him as baby and apparently they were fine with it and just wanted to know when baby would arrive.
But I still can't help fearing the worst. What have your experiences been of this situation? How do you keep things smooth? What advice can you give me please? I just want to be prepared for the worst!
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Lulabel27 · 11/01/2011 13:03
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