I've never asked for advice here before, as I didn't need it. I love my DSD, she is a good kid and we get along great. DHs ex is another matter, but I have always just 'detached' after letting her rile me in the early years. Something has happened though that I am stressing over. If I give the whole story now it will be an essay, so I'll try to be brief and just give the facts.
DH doesn't work, he is a SAHD. I work, good hours, good wage. DH ex works, good hours, good wage (slightly less than me). DH has a pension of about 500/month.
DSD is 15. Split happened when she was 6. We have been married 6 yrs, DD is 5.
DH pays about 100/month to Ex. I pay another 100, and give money to DSD.
Last Fri Ex asked for 150 for present dsd wanted. We said no, we had finished Xmas shopping and would not pay for more. Got very PA text telling DH to remember he has 2 children. Replied that both had same amount spent on them and that any extra money comes from me.
Got text this am. Nasty one that essentially calls him a sponger, 'hopes he's proud that another woman has to support his children' etc. He hasn't seen it yet. When he does WW3 is going to break out .
I'm tempted to delete the text. I don't want the hassle, I don't want him upset. I know if he reads it we are all going to suffer (he'll get moody, snippy with me and DD, furious with Ex, it will just put a cloud over Xmas)
I actually wrote out a very PA reply to her, but that's not my style, and I don't want to ruin DSDs Xmas either.
Snow isn't helping. Our plans to travel have been kiboshed and now we aren't seeing DSD till the NY. Oh and one of the threats this am is that we aren't going to see her again 'as you can't afford it'
so, do I delete text? Leave it but plan a reply for him? I don't think I can stay out if it this time.
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LtEveDallas · 24/12/2010 07:03
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