I wondered if people might discuss what their partners pay their ex's. I know its a bit vulgar but I'm struggling with my own feelings about it - and though I've not been a member very long this has been a supportive place for me to get a hold of my feelings.
My partner is a good dad to his 2 kids. And for the 2 yrs they've been separated has paid WELL over the odds (i.e. 3 times what the CSA would make him pay) - basically the full mortgage. Now that he wants to reduce it (having always said he would, once the mortgage reached a stage it could be changed) she's obviously kicking up a stink. She not only wants the entire house (not paying him anything) but wants part of his pension. She earns more than he does.
I love it that he wants to look after his children - and he should. I'd never suggest otherwise. But he's come up with a new figure now which is more than twice what the CSA would say and I guess I cant help thinking that its more to appease her than what the children actually need. Can they really need that much? Bearing in mind she works and earns a lot?
Am I just being the bitter new girlfriend? I do hope I'm not! I dont want DPs money. I have enough of my own.
Hope to hear from you wise women who are old hands at this!
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SingleStep · 18/12/2010 20:13
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