hi all...
Long story which some of you know but anyway... DSS came to live with us some months ago after deteriorating relationship with his mother over the past couple of years. He is nearly 15 and well-balanced and mature.
He's been happy (well, as happy as a teenaged boy can be, I think!) since living with us and he is thriving at school and in extra curricular activities etc. He still sees his brother (who lives with the mother).
Problem is DSS wants nothing much to do with his mother and vice versa. He seems quite happy to see her for, literally, about half an hour each weekend when he calls in to go out with his brother. He says anything more is terrible as she spends the little time they have together complaining at him for deciding to leave and then saying what a terrible person he is and how he has hurt her and is selfish etc... I can see why he doesnt want to be exposed to more of that, tbh!
He hasnt spent a night there since he left, nor has she offered or asked him to come and stay overnight nor to spend any of the summer holiday or half term with her, so he has been with us 24/7.
We're happy to have him of course (debated the principle for many months in advance of the crisis that forced him to leave). And whilst we dont want to press him to spend more time with her if he doesnt want to, somehow it doesnt feel right. I'm worried that in the future he may regret not having a relationship with her. Equally though, she is not making the environment conducive to a relationship, and she's supposedly the adult.
Any thoughts, comments or suggestions?
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DSS now lives with us, doesnt want to see mum, and vice versa!
ladydeedy · 02/11/2010 13:08
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