How to keep DP's relationship with my DS happy with DC2 on the way.

[MrsFC]

Hi there,

I would be really grateful for any tips or advice from anyone who has already been through this. I'm sure it's not that unusual!

I currently live with DS1 from a previous relationship and DP. We are a generally very happy ship. DS is secure with us both, I'm the disciplinarian & DP is always the good cop.

I'm now pregnant with DC2. DS1 is pleased. I think he's been an only for such a long time & he gets lonely. I've really talked it through with him & he is totally on board. The first thing he said to DP was 'you'll be a Daddy too now MrFC!'. Which was lovely.

But he is not a silly child and I'm pretty sure he will have concerns about his relationship with DP, and that he will get pushed aside.

DP is an incredibly fair and just man. There is absolutely no way it would show that he thought any more of one than the other. But we have talked about it and he is concerned that he will feel more for the new baby than he will for his DSS.

Do any of you wise MNers have any practical suggestions for us to help everyone feel more secure?