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Talk to EE about keeping your children safe online – HTC One handset up for grabs NOW CLOSED

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KatieBMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 18-Nov-13 16:35:31

EE would like to know how Mumsnetters go about keeping their DCs safe online.

Here’s what EE have to say, “Like many things, digital living comes with certain risks if used inappropriately and it’s good to be aware of these risks. It's just as important to keep your child safe on their phone or computer, as it is in the 'real world'. We know our children are often ahead of us when it comes to tech knowledge. We aim to help you understand the issues so you can support them. That’s why we’ve got simple tips and advice that are easy to implement, so you can help your child enjoy using the internet and be safe at the same time.”

So, what do you know and do in the way of internet safety? Do you have parental controls installed on electronic devices at home? Or maybe you try to ensure that your younger children are supervised when browsing the web? What kind of online content do you try to monitor? Do you struggle to know what to do to keep your DCs safe online? Whatever your stance is on online safety, we’d love to hear about it!

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BlackberrySeason Mon 18-Nov-13 18:28:32

Everything I know about online safety I've learned on here. My greatest worry is other people not being as careful with their kids' net-safety as we are, so our dc are exposed that way.

My eldest is only 4 so she's supervised when on the computer. She usually only plays games anyway, either from CBeebies or the school's phonics website.

mary21 Tue 19-Nov-13 16:00:31

Using talk talk filter which covers all devices in the house. Only allowed to us internet in lounge. That in cludes phones and tablets The problem is when they go to friends houses. And smart phones in the playground.

The kids only have access to the internet in a room when one of us is there too. We don't peer over their shoulder but it would make them think twice about accessing anything dodgy.

We realise this probably won't work when they are at high school so we will get filters on the BT broadband, will try to make sure the children are educated about internet safety, and will work on a basis of trusting them, whilst probably at the same time checking their internet history on a regular basis... If anything dodgy does come up then we will take a decision at the time on appropriate action.

I worry about what they get exposed to at their friends houses, some of them have siblings and step siblings who are well into teenage years or even adults, and have all their own gadgets.

TEEARDIS Tue 19-Nov-13 18:07:34

My son is only allowed on the computer/tablet/phone when supervised, although that supervision might be from across the room.

He has his own log in on our Win 7 machine so he can play CBeeBies etc and I know he can't get to YouTube etc without my husband or I right there with him.

As he gets older (he's 4, BTW) we will install NetNanny or similar an he is getting a LeapPad Ultra for Christmas which has safe browsing built in.

I do think the number one thing to remember is to keep an eye and to remember, as Blackberry said, not all parents will be as vigilant, so talk to your children about what they see at other's houses and, if necessary, don't let them to go friends where there is no control.

WowOoo Colombia Tue 19-Nov-13 18:23:33

Like others have said it's what goes on at friends' houses that worries me. Especially those with older siblings.

Ds is only allowed access to the family computer so we are always milling around.
I monitor him when he's watching YouTube tutorials about whatever game he's mad about. Some of them have had some swearing - that was for Super Mario!
YouTube suggests other videos and this particularly worries me as sometimes I see things I don't want him to click on, just in case.

10thingsihateaboutpoo Tue 19-Nov-13 18:37:39

DDs are too young for this to be a concern yet but I do worry about them being on the internet as they get older as being attached to social media seems to be the norm for people now. I just hope I pick up security tips as I go along! Any kind of parental controls or advice would be helpful.

BellaVida Tue 19-Nov-13 19:20:52

We have filters, parental controls and passwords blocking PC's, sites and even TV channels.

However, there is still a risk- even some inappropriate content might get through the best of filters. Even seemingly innocuous teenage commentaries on some children's games, such as the latest Minecraft craze, can contain bad language! Or searches on youtube for Barbie cartoons can bring up vulgar content, so I always do the searches and check.

At the age my children are currently (all still in single figures!), we feel the only way to ensure they are watching suitable content, is to supervise them.

We have filters and passwords, internet is only to be used where it can be supervised with the exception of netflix kids section when they can watch it in bed in the morning after I've set it up for them. DD1 (12) isn't allowed to take a mobile to school and never has credit on it anyway so I think she has forgotten she has one.

ILoveAFullFridge Tue 19-Nov-13 20:36:03

Talk with your children about what they might find online, why you want to protect them from it and how they can protect themselves.

Never be angry at them for trying websites - you need to keep the lines of communication open between you so that they are less likely to hide their online lives and more likely to be open with you.

Talk to them about the difference between RL friends and online 'friends'.

It's one thing protecting them at home, where we can install and oversee filters, we need to teach them to protect themselves when away from us.

pancakesfortea Tue 19-Nov-13 20:40:53

We have a filter. But like others have said there's stuff I don't want them reading which would get through - eg upsetting stuff on the news. So we also have clear ground rules about what kind of sites they are allowed to visit and we try to supervise.

Friends houses are a minefield. My 8 year old son told.me that his friend googled f***ing ar**holes on his ipad. He claims they didn't click trrough to the results but you just don't know. ad"

Tortoise Tue 19-Nov-13 20:45:30

I've got talktalk safety settings on which covers anything linked to home WiFi. And pc/laptop use is in the same room as me for younger DC. Also Google safe search settings are on.

moldingsunbeams Tue 19-Nov-13 20:48:24

Having anything linked up to the internet in a family room where you can see what they are doing is my best tip.
As well as nanny filters and talking to your children about how to stay safe.

We had a scary incident with dd at a friends house where she was playing a game she signed up for there and added and talked to people she did not know.

mercibucket Tue 19-Nov-13 21:43:50

so much is out of our hands now kids have ipods ipads tablets and smartphones with public wifi

so talking to them and educating them is the only version forward

MMcanny Tue 19-Nov-13 21:55:33

I keep asking DH to put some kind of nanny on the family pc but I still don't hink he has. We are still in single figures age wise and knowing my kids they are not literate enough to deliberately type in questionable searches, of course I am aware inappropriate stuff comes up with even the most innocent of googling. The only devide they have access to is the family desktop. No-one looks at anything inappropriate on that so one would hope this reduces the incidence of being spammed/getting rude banners etc. We have discussed with the eldest how once seen certain images cannot be erased from your mind and so far that's made him quite wary himself. I am more worried about his friends, some of whom have devices and are much more literate/curious about erotica. He's most likely to see inappropriate content at school. Hopefully on a tiny phone where you can't make anything out! Lol. We do keep a dialogue going with them and when they're able to make more of chatting virtually I'll probably step up the discussions. At the moment they mostly ask us to type things in/read out.

VikingLady Tue 19-Nov-13 21:56:06

So far DD is too young to be on the computer unsupervised, but I am very careful what info I share about her online. I do not put any info about her on FB for instance. As she gets older she will be allowed to use computers ONLY in a family room, and we will retain access rights to her email and accounts.

sharond101 Tue 19-Nov-13 22:15:07

DS is only 18mo but loves the laptop and iPhone etc. He just gets to see babytv app or disneyjnr but this could be a challenge I have yet to face.

prettybird Tue 19-Nov-13 22:15:59

Ds is 13 now and got a smartphone for his 13th birthday - but we had already established the principles of responsible internet access: the iPad could only be used in the living room with us. He went onto Facebook 2/3 of the way through S2 (=Y7) when he was still 12 but on the proviso that we knew his password and could "police" his account.

On those occasions when we were disturbing him while we were watching TV, he would go and watch what he wanted (usually streaming cycling or F1) on the stairwell up to his room as he knew he wasn't lowed the iPad upstairs.

Have also talked with him about both porn online and bullying on line and that he needs to talk to us if he comes across either (whether he is the "victim" or he is aware of someone else) and that he wouldn't get into trouble for doing so.

Pistillate Tue 19-Nov-13 23:08:42

I have explained to them that on YouTube, din't cluck on the version which says "parody" unless they are with me.

IAlwaysThought Wed 20-Nov-13 00:11:26

I have previously posted the following for Apple products that are running iOS7

BLOCKING ADULT WEB CONTENT (ie porn 'n stuff)

Even if you have decent controls on your home network and it's worth following the info in the following THIS LINK . This feature is even more important if your child has a 3G device or accesses the internet via networks with no controls

It's a bit of a cop out to link to another site but it's so comprehensive I think its worth it.

Hopezibah Wed 20-Nov-13 00:13:48

We keep the PC in a family room so we can keep an eye on what they are doing. We also educate them about what they can and can't look at on the internet.

So far we've not needed parental controls but might do in future.

It is a worry that something inappropriate could be clicked on easily by accident.

DeathByLaundry Wed 20-Nov-13 07:20:00

Mine are 3 and 6 so don't have unsupervised access. They are allowed to play games on my phone etc but I'm careful about which ones. When the time comes that they want to use the internet themselves, which won't be long, I'll be taking guidance from MN!

I dread the era of smartphone use in the future. So much potential for disaster.

mirtzapine Wed 20-Nov-13 07:42:22

As EE acts as a gateway to the internet from the connection they provide, they are the ones who should be filtering and whitelisting/blacklisting sites. The same should apply to all internet service providers whether they are mobile internet services, or wired service providers.

There's no point talking about online protection, if the providers don't play their part. There are about 30 odd undersea cables entering the UK, filters can be applied at each of those points. Also as Edward Snowden has showed if GCHQ has the ability to snoop on the UK population, then use that snooping for good. Catch the bullies/groomers early.

aristocat Wed 20-Nov-13 09:24:28

My DCs do not have a phone yet but are allowed to use iPad with Internet access.

Itis a worry that something inappropriate could be accidentally clicked. They do use the tablet unsupervised and are 11 and 9 yo.

They do not have a FB account but DS is the eldest and has no interest in anything online except football or WWE or YouTube.

Online safety is discussed at school too but something that needs constant monitoring at home.

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