NC as this is a sensitive issue. Apologies for the long post. Tonight we have an appointment with the police as my DS teen has been viewing child pornography via the dark web. This amongst other things, including dead bodies and animals. He has SN and we reported to CAHMS that we had found this material on his lap top. This is despite us checking his viewing regularly and putting in the necessary parental controls on it. We had caught him with it once before and had a serious talk about the consequences, how it was illegal and unacceptable and the consequences could be life changing. We were unsure if he was curious or viewing it for other reasons. When we found it again we knew we had to report it. CAHMS have contacted the police, which we were expecting of course, and the safeguarding team from Social Services. No word from them yet as despite us having an allocated SW she is frequently off sick. SS have not delegated his case to anyone else in the meantime. DS has Aspergers, Conduct Disorder and ADHD. He goes to a special school. So I don't drip feed I will tell you we have an older DS who also has Aspergers and an NT DD. I am registered as disabled due to various health conditions but I have always been the DCs carer. DS 2 has been jealous of and verbally aggressive to DD since she was born, so we have to keep them apart as much as possible. We have no family nearby and no support atm. We are devastated and besides ourselves with worry for the future for him.
So sorry for you going through this. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to stop all this happening and have reported everything that is going on to the right people. There is nothing I can say which would make this awful situation better for you and I won't pretend I can do. I do think you clearly need more help from social services however, you are struggling to keep it together and stop this completely unacceptable behaviour and your social worker should certainly be trying to help you here. I completely understand why your heart broken.
I can't help in any practical way but just wanted to send you a supporting hug. This all gets v tough when our lovely if quirky kiddies move on into the teens - it does sound like SS aren't doing enough to support you but maybe that will change now.