this is going to have to be the quickest post ever as im due to go to work.
son has AS. dyspraxia and dyslexia
he is 20
he has no conscience. today i found out for the 3rd time that he has been taking money from my bank account.
large sums
im at wits end. is it now time to report him for theft? part of me thinks i should but im in the police and whatever he gets will possibly ruin his future prospects as no one is ever going to employ a thief.
he has never stolen from anyone but us.
taking into account the first 2 times, with this time it comes to over a thousand pounds.
i have incurred bank charges.
i cannot give my daughter her pocket money
and he doesnt give a shit. Ive no idea what he is spending the money on. I know in the past he has taken out payday loans, he told me today he has another one of those along with the money he has stolen, he says he took the money to pay his bills - he lives at home and only has a phone bill.
i dont know what to do anymore. im despairing.
part of me wants to report him for theft and turf him out.
all i have ever done is love him, fight his corner for him, and this is the thanks i get.
i have to go to work now, but please if anyone has any thoughts i need to know where to turn.
im going to talk to my sergeant tonight, social services are not interested as ive tried them before.
DH is secretive and very private - he will not tell me anything even though i have offered to help him with anything that he has a problem with - i know he gambles online, i know he talks to a girl in New York on the phone which could have racked up a large phone bill. (he in the past has lied to me - he told me he was visiting a friend in Kent but he actually went to meet a girl on Seattle USA for two weeks and i had no idea - i found out 3 months later)
please help. i cant cope.
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ThatVikRinA22 · 13/04/2012 19:03
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