Why is SN an opt-in topic? Why is it different?

[lou031205]

That's it, really. I just noticed that you have to opt-in on active convos, and wondered why?

[Mamazon]

ooh well its a bit of a lng story.

basicly us over in SN have a bit of a dark sense of humour at times and after one of us posted something having a bit of a light hearted whinge about the fact that some people with NT children don't always understand just how hard things are for us...she got jumped on big style by people who had completly missed the fact that it was meant tongue in cheek.

there was weeks of discussion and the general concensus was that the SN parents would feel happier posting some of the more personal details of our daily trauma's if that section of the site was not open for general view.

Although we certainly don't feel we should be hidden away, it has prevented the misunderstandings and offence that was sometimes caused.

[2shoes]

it also makes people more aware that it is sn. so when I say that dd has crisps for breakfast. they realise that I am posting in sn(example)

[getbackinyouryurtjimjams]

And the one week there was a change back to view for all (by mistake) a thread went pear shaped on the very first day.

[cyberseraphim]

I've never seen this 'opt in' thing. How does it work?

[Cappuccino]

I really don't see now why, when you can customise the whole talk board, sn is different in this way. People get to choose every subject they hide or ignore

but I've made my views known on this countless times before so I will shut up

[LMAsMummy]

I am totally confused

[SixSpotBurnet]

I think most SN posters regard it as making SN a "safer" place (if you like) for us.

I certainly do, although I am aware that there is a powerful counter-argument that it is "ghetto-ising" those with special needs.

[2shoes]

I think it has it's good side and bad. if the sn board was more visible, I don't think the trolls we have had would get away with it for so long. but then people would post without thinking. It is not hidded away as anyone can find it and post.

[Flamesparro]

I assumed it was back to free for all since the board change. Is it not??

[2shoes]

no opt in again

[TotalChaos]

cecause we are all such special mommies to our kids

(runs and hides).

seriously - because when SN was in active convos a few years back, IIRC a few problems along the lines of people not clocking the thread was related to a kid with SN, and being OMG a child of x age not toilet trained or OMG just give them 3 meals a day and they'll cave in eventually.

[LMAsMummy]

Where do I sign up? (Am I allowed to sign up?)

[cyberseraphim]

I haven't opted in to anything. I'm confused.

[SixSpotBurnet]

You don't have to "opt-in" to post on SN. But if you click on "hide & show threads & topics", you can choose to have the SN threads appear in your Active Conversations.

[lou031205]

Thank you for all your replies, sorry to have posted and run!

I have been a member since 2005, but have always browsed by topic, not active convos, so just thought it was a little odd.

I suppose my first thought was that it gives the impression that SN isn't a worthwhile topic for the general MN population(), so you have to 'opt-in'. I have found the SN boards the most interesting.

I always think it is so amazing when a worried parent asks for advice regarding their child, and there are loads of seasoned parents with real knowlegdge and advice.