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[sarah573]

DS is 9 with AS. He has a statement.

He goes to school for 3 hours aday (just the mornings) at the moment and has 2 hours of 1:1 support.

The school are trying to gradually increase his hours, with a view to him being back to full time school by July, so that he goes into year 6 full time.

For the last 3 or 4 school weeks he has been staying Wednesday and Thursday lunch times, so I have been collecting him at 1.15 instead of 12.15 on those days. The plan is that he will do this for a couple more weeks before joining his class for the afternoon lessons on weds and thursday.

The problem is he will not eat his school dinner. He refuses to go into the hall, and just says he doesn't like whats on offer. The school have tried offering him alternatives, letting him eat in a quiet class room rather than the dinning hall etc. I have offered him packed lunch but hes not having it.

School are getting in a pickle, saying that he's not going to be able to stay for the afternoons if he won't have his lunch, and that he will have to go back to just mornings.

I think (well I know) he is playing them up, he's very bright and manipulative and knows exactly what he's doing. I've told the school this and asked them offer him lunch, and if he refuses to leave him running around the playground. When he goes onto full days and doesn't eat his lunch, well he will only do it once!!!!

School think Im being mean, and are saying they will not have him in for afternoons if he doesn't eat his lunch.

So what do you all think?

PS home dinners isn't an option

[sarah573]

Whoops sorry forgot to add a title!!!

[Peachy]

I (as Mum of an 8 year old with a dx of HFA / AS) think you are bang on with your solution, frankly. Assuming yu've ruled out factors sucha s not eating off unfamiliar plates etc, then well, yep AS kids can manipulate par excellence and that has to be given short shrift.

Give him a decent breakfast, offer him a snack when he gets home- he won't starve.

[dgeorgea]

How do you get on with the educational psychologist? Our one has been brilliant in acting as a go between for us and the school at meetings. Doesn't always go our way, but know she is on our daughter's side. If yours is as good perhaps you could ask for a meeting between you all to try and sort it out.

Knowing my daughter I wouldn't be so worried by the lack of dinner, but I'm a lot stricter on her drinking water at dinner time.

When he comes home and hasn't eaten dinner at school do you feed him? If you do refuse to feed him until after he would have got home had been at school all day. No sweets, biscuits etc either. Let him know at the beginning of the week and remind him, don't just do it. Also let the school know so they realise you are trying to work with them.