Flame slinkin back in....

[Flamesparrow]

Back out of my "its all in my imagination, she's fiiiiiiiiiiine" way of thinking

Put the tantrums from the last few days down to being a 3 yr old... then looked back and realised that each of them kicked off when she hadn't had warning about things changing Some of it is 3yr oldness, but it is 3 yr old reaction to AS issues.

She has empathy (I think), but various other bits of the triad match up. Its mild, but it is there. I am not insane or making excuses for my crap parenting.

Appointment with HV for DS next week, saw her today and she asked how DD was getting on, so she is clearly open to talking about it. I will get things moving with a paed.

I am suddenly realising why my friend baulked at her son being labelled ADHD, she knew he was, she knew how to handle him, so didn't want him being labelled with it and him being "different". I tried explaining at the time that he was "different" and a label wouldn't change him. Now it is my baby though... part of me yells, she is fine at school, its just a home thing, she doesn't need a label - but the other part knows... she is fine now. She is 3, in preschool where kids are all finding their personalities anyway - it is when she is 6,7,8 and they have all settled and she is still slightly different but the problems are already setting because teachers treat her as an "attitude problem" rather than AS.

I need to get the ball rolling now.



The journey begins.... (again )

[jenk1]

for you and your DD.

Welcome back, ive missed you

[ChocolateTeapot]

Hello Flame, I didn't know that you were worried about your DD. I understand how you feel about the labelling issue, I felt so weird when DD was undergoing assessment. I can't remember if we have discussed my DD, she has Dyspraxia, hypermobility, low muscle tone & at one point had a dx of speech and language delay, she's having her last SALT session this Friday.

3 years on I am so relieved she has a diagnosis, it has opened doors that wouldn't otherwise be open and overall things are going well, but I remember how difficult I found the whole labelling thing earlier on.

We do really need to sort meeting up don't we ?! Are you around during the day at all and fancy something like Moors Valley ?

[Flamesparrow]

I didn't know that CT! (We really don't speak properly do we? )

Moors Valley sounds good - we're normally about after 12ish This week apparently I have managed to fill every day Normally its hard trying to wear her out

[PeachyChocolateEClair]

Aw sweetie XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX


From my perspective, I spent many a year wondering why i culndt make friends very well (i am better than I was, you can learn) / know the rules / handle change and it was only when I read aboutS am that I relaised how much applied to me. So now I know I'm not horrid, or a freak or anything- I'm just slightly different genetically to some other people (though once you know the signs you look for AS everywhere LOL- and you find it too!). I hope Sam gets the same thing- he seems to, he knows that he doesn't make noises because he's a bad or anything, or what in Somerset is referred to with deriogatory overtones as a @Special'- its because he's himself and thats OK.

In many ways I think that is the gift of a DX- self knowledge.

[ChocolateTeapot]

Right, let's get organised then ! What days are you free next week ?

[ChocolateTeapot]

Peachyclair speaks very very wise words. That's one of the reasons I was keen for DD to get a DX. I wanted her to understand that it's not because she's stupid, daft, boring or any of those things that children can think about them selves. But that actually she does amazingly well each day given that so many things that other children take for granted to has to work at .

I'm sorry I hadn't explained to you about DD. I was wittering on about the other children and parents and attitudes to DD and it must have made no sense whatsoever !

[Flamesparrow]

Afternoons next week are still free (that is my normal life... not this silly social life I've developed this week!). Emrys has got jabs on Weds so will probably be grumpy on Thursday.

I caught on that your DD was "different" in some way iyswim, just not what .

I think one of my biggest blocks here is that my mum seems quite anti dx - where she seems quite mild (like my sister), she still sees it as just a personality quirk. I think possibly where I read more into it at the time we realised why my sister was like she is, I can see the various stumbling blocks in the future. I also think she still puts a lot of my sister's ways down to personality/attitude, which it is, but I see that personality as having been shaped by a life of knowing she wasn't quite the same, but not sure why.

[Flamesparrow]

Always wise words from Peachy