I have 3 sons, aged 7, 5 and 1.
The middle ds is, and has always been a difficult child. Painfully difficult.
His behaviour requires a LOT of patience daily and it is getting to the point where it's becoming more difficult to manage.
Dh and I are exhausted.
He was non-verbal until about the age of 3. It was found he'd had really bad hearing due to glue ear and had grommets inserted, which helped enormously.
Toilet training was extremely difficult. It didn't take him long, but he had real issues with sitting on the loo and refused point blank to sit on a potty. One day it just clicked completely for him and all of a sudden he used the toilet like he'd been using it his whole life - no accidents at night at all. It was odd, but good. We just kind of let that one go and put it down to daft toddler behaviour.
He had massive problems in drinking from the EXACT same cup all the time for about 2 years too when he was about 2. It was obsessive. We passed this off as strange toddler behaviour too. He eventually grew out of it (kind of).
He has always had massive problems going to bed at night. It's like he has no off-switch. He is fixated on his dad at the moment and obsesses about dad being there/upstairs if he is in bed and trying to go to sleep. It takes HOURS.
He will eventually go to sleep after much cajoling/threats/books/whatever he 'needs ' at that point in time to go to sleep, but it's usually about 11pm. His dad and I are exhausted. He then comes into our bed in the middle of the night, making for a really uncomfortable sleep for us too. He wakes at 7 am and is constantly needy from the moment his eyes open.
We have tried absolutely everything for his sleep - reward charts, the bloody hypnotising rabbit, bunk beds, seperate beds, staying in the room, prizes, stories, being nice, being the bad cop - EVERYTHING! I am at my wit's end with this one.
He loops on behaviour and fixates on stuff - if something is planned and doesn't meet his expectation, all hell breaks loose.
I have a lot of experience with kids and I know it's not 'bad' behaviour. He holds it all together at school and is the model pupil - it's like at home he relaxes and it all catches up with him.
He's social, he has good friends etc - I am not worried about him that way. He has real problems with reading and writing, despite being read to every day and from a very young age. I've questioned dyslexia with his teacher but because he is so young, they can't make any formal assessments.
I'm querying a high-functioning autism but I am so unsure. I am on the brink of taking him to the doctor, but keep thinking he may well grow out of all of this. Any challenges he has faced (cup, toilet etc) he has eventually grown out of, however frustrating/exhausting it has been for us at the time.
He is a sweet little boy, he is clever and very funny. He has an amazing personality generally.
We are however completely exhausted and I just know that his behaviour isn't completely normal. I don't know if I should put it off any further. He's getting older and the bedtime thing is seriously affecting his ability to function (and seriously killing us too - we have two other kids who thankfully go to bed no bother at all and sleep like angels!)
In your experienced opinions, is he just a really bloody difficult little kid, or do you reckon I might be on to something. Tbh, I have thought this for a while, but have been scared to deal with it :(
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bletheringboys · 01/10/2016 13:26
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