Have been called in to meeting at school later this week (again) to discuss DS' behaviour re inappropriate touching of his classmates.
Background: DS is 8yo, in Y3 at MS, has dxes of ASD-PDA, anxiety, SPD. No statement/EHCP. FT 1:1 support.
Aside from general hugging, grabbing, affectionate headbutting, etc, the more worrying behaviours include licking others' faces, fiddling with zips on others' clothing, grabbing/rubbing others' bottoms and putting his face up to others' bottoms. He displays this behaviour particularly with one girl, his good friend (whom he's known since preschool and always been very close to, and who doesn't object to the behaviour but seems to encourage it / find it funny (not that that makes it ok)).
As far as I can work out, school are not blaming him/us or saying that he has any kind of inappropriate intent; nor are they implying that he's been abused or seen anything inappropriate at home etc. But they have pointed out that as he gets older this kind of behaviour is getting less acceptable and could leave him open to complaints / accusations of (sexual) harassment - which is really concerning.
We have explained, and they understand (I think) that we think this behaviour probably results from a combination of sensory-seeking, emotional comfort-seeking, poor impulse control, and poor understanding of/ability to follow social etiquette - all of which arise from his dx'd difficulties.
Autism advisory teacher has observed him, expressed concerns that the behaviour leaves him "vulnerable" and "open to being misunderstood", and has given school social stories and diagrams (concentric circles with different people at different levels of closeness with appropriate physical gestures e.g. shaking hands, hugging, etc, assigned to the different levels). School have worked on these with him but nothing has really changed.
What should we be asking school to do? What should we be doing? TIA for any thoughts or advice.
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