Sorry this probably isn't the best place for the thread but I wasn't sure which SN/health board would be right.
I am really, really confused and worried about my DD. Sorry this might be rambly and confusing. Basically she has been really struggling for over a year now. But I can't really put my finger on what is going on IYSWIM?
I realised from when she was very young that she is very social, has fantastic empathy etc and I wasn't at all concerned (unlike my DS who had an ASD assessment due to communication issues). But then a few years ago - in fact thanks to MN - I realised that both my dad and I almost certainly have ASD (not diagnosed yet, long boring story) and that everything I assumed about how autism presents, especially in girls, was totally inaccurate.
Still for a while I wasn't concerned, but then she started having trouble at school. She started getting anxious, to the point of panic attacks, and not being able to 'switch off'. Moving to the huge junior school made it loads worse but neither school could really help TBH as she was keeping it all in and exploding at home or having sleepless nights, so they didn't see a problem.
She has what I really think are meltdowns rather than tantrums - she does have the latter sometimes but I can see a difference when she is totally out of control and she really isn't just trying to get what she wants.
She has major trouble adjusting when something changes from what she expects - for example if I ask them to have a bath before dinner instead of after it leads to huge panic.
As I said, she is very social, and has some good friends and plays with them well (the problem sometimes is that she is overpowered by her friends), but she can't manage more than a couple of hours really. She struggles with crowded places. Anything like a birthday party will like clockwork lead to a meltdown that night.
She is now homeschooled as we took her brother out and she asked to join him (I was surprised as she does have friends there, but I think it was the right choice because she was too scared to go some days and I could see she was overwhelmed). She's got a better social life now because we can balance it IYSWIM and that side of her anxiety has pretty much disappeared, and she hasn't had a (clearly stress induced) migraine since she left. It's the 'letting things go' or problems with changes that remain, and she still isn't sleeping. There are a few other things about the way she thinks (being literal etc) that add up to me thinking all is not right.
Anyway we never got anywhere with the GP because they insisted on getting a referral from the school nurse, but said nurse wouldn't do it because as I mentioned earlier DD never showed any problems at school. So now I have no idea what to do. I have a feeling a GP would laugh if I said "I think my DD may have ASD" because they don't see what we do at home IYSWIM. But the fact is she is not 'right', she is miserable and anxious. So I am thinking either ASD or some kind of anxiety issue (I have this too, OCD according to psychiatrist but I know it often goes hand in hand with ASD anyway) and... just AAAARGH. I don't understand how I've gone from thinking she was totally neurotypical and happy, to wondering what the hell is wrong with my little girl and why I can't help her :(
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