We've just got back from a break away in North Wales and we had an 'incident' where I thought a lot about the first part of this thread.
To be honest, it's been very hard work. I took my dd (aged 12 yesterday) with CP and learning difficulties, along with NT ds and my mum to Greenacres caravan site at Porthmadog. The site btw is SN friendly but not totally accessible. It's in a lovely location right next to the beach. You can get accessible caravans and they do have toilets for the disabled and ramps around the entertainments area but I didn't see a hoist on the side of the swimming pool for example so I cannot say it's totally accessible. The site (British Holidays) is very flat, however, and is good if you want to chill out.
DD threw quite a few tantrums during the week but the staff were helpful and we didn't get into trouble. We were quite an obvious spectacle to some people but what antagonised dd more was when people 'gawped' at her. Her latest is when she is being stared at, she just puts on the deepest crossest voice and says 'oooh you naughty girl/boy/man'. Now that's funny in hindsight and a lot of the mums of SN children will be saying 'Well done' but the situations we were in seemed to escalate because people gawped more!!!
One particular incident was at the Welsh Highland Railway cafe in Porthmadog. Please be assured MNs that the lady who works in the cafe has a daughter who works with SN children and was perfectly OK about dd's rant, so I can highly recommend the place! But there was this other group of 2 mums and 3 kids - we were sat at one end of the cafe; they were sat at the other and there must have been about 8 rows of empty tables between us. But the mums let two of the kids actually come up to the table next to us and stare at us without calling them back. Well you can imagine the frenzy dd worked up to! And they still didn't call the kids back. This went on for about 10 minutes and I was getting scratched and screamed at. The food arrived and dd calmed down.
Ironically, the youngest of the gawping kids (around 3 year old?) then did a runner out of the entrance door someone had left open so the mum then had to respond by (getting up of her a**e) and running after him to drag him back to his seat.
Whe dd had finished, I took her out and left mum to finish her meal. Blow me - mum said the kids then all got up to run the length of the cafe in order to peer out of the window at dd getting in our car. Well that was it - mum lost it! She sternly told the three of them to get back to their mothers and behave!
I take it the mums (from Stockport if you're reading this - and you'll know who you are) have not learned anything from the part 1 thread.
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dottee · 11/04/2004 12:43
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