We have literally just had a diagnosis of ASD for DS this week. This has manifested itself in violent outbursts, often at his peers.
I had a bit of a weird experience this afternoon, and would appreciate any wise advice on how to deal with DS's obviously unacceptable behaviour where it impacts on other DCs?
We are just starting to read The Explosive Child, and will be trying those strategies once we get our heads around them.
Anyway, I took DS to the park after school for a short session. I thought it was going well, and after about 20 minutes I had DS walking towards the park exit with me. He doesn't like stopping doing one activity and starting another, so this is always a slightly tense point.
He was waving around a branch he had just picked up (think it was off a rose or something, as it had some small thorns). I was asking him to stop waving it about when he threw it, apparently intentionally (but, you will appreciate that DS's ability to anticipate the consequences of his actions is limited), in the face of a small person in school uniform (so probably nursery - 3ish) who was scooting past.
The small boy looked shocked and stopped. DS started running off, but I thought I should check the small boy was okay. Not a single mark on him and no crying. So just had a nasty surprise.
Meanwhile a very angry Dad charges over and grabs DS and starts telling him off and bringing him over to me and the small boy.
Anyway, I probably looked shocked and gabbled "he has autism, can you be careful please?". He says sorry but is still clearly very angry.
I explain to DS what he has done is not okay, and DS says sorry.
Dad then continues to go on at me about how it wasn't an ordinary stick because it has thorns. He has not actually said anything to his own child yet. He has checked him over and has had the opportunity to see that there is no physical injury. The other child is completely silent, so I would guess he is shocked.
DS and I walk out of the park with my cheeks flaming. I talked to DS on the way about what he had done and why it was dangerous and that he shouldn't thrown things when other people are around without checking carefully. He seemed to take it on board.
My instinct is that the other Dad's behaviour is highly unusual and this should not put me off from ever taking DS to the park again, but feeling a bit confused.
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