hi had THE meeting

[suedenley]

Hello everyone
Well the morning didnt start too well head had told me meeting was for 10 45 i left message on ds keyworkers answerphone to confirm the time with her she rang confused this morning, head had informed her meeting was for 10.
I got there just in time and when head saw me she went white.
Apparently she informed ds keyworker that she knew the cids woman was going to be late and didnt want to keep me hanging around .
Ah so she knew one person was going to be late and she didnt want to keep me waiting but was ok to keep Lea, keyworker, ed psych, mental health team and school nurse waiting .My how thoughful of her funny though cids werent late at all
Then it got good everytime the head opened her mouth the mental health lady shot her down in flames and really showed her up as being ignorant/indifferent to kids with special needs.
I dont like to gloat but i was loving it
Head tried to insist that i had agreed to an iep i had never clapped eyes on before, but i said "No i never as the first target says to look at teacher when PHYSICALLY prompted i would never have agreed to this as it would make him very very distressed i teach him to look at the persons ear as it makes the other peson think hes looking at them while prompting him to remember to listen and i would never have said my contribution should be to make him look at me mrs X as he has no problem with eye contact with me" she shot herself in the foot and everyone in the room knew she was lying too.
He now has the support of all the outside agencys and the head has to listen to them as if there is no improvement by the end of term ed phych is going to ask for assessment for statement . YAY
want to say thankyou to everyone who gave me advice and support these last couple weeks i couldnt have done it without you , as felt you were all in the room and this made me feel stonger

[suedenley]

Oh then the educational welfare bloke right at the end of the meeting thought hed turn it around and start trying to put some blame on us the family so he turned to my DH and said youve been very quiet mr X not had much to say have you , do you have a good relationship with your DS and my dh said
I have an excellent relationship with my son he is a lovely boy and he is just like me i have asd and am bi polar so i understand him better than any of you
then none of them knew what to say and sort of shuffled there feet and papers and we left very jubilent more yayness

[tiptoes]

Well done suedenley,am really pleased for you.

It,s brilliant when you feel you have fianally been heard.

Hope your ds gets all the help he deserves now.

[coppertop]

Well done, SD!

Hopefully the Head will now realise that she can't do just as she pleases anymore. I'm so pleased for you, ds and Mr SD.

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

suedenley

Well done you!!!.

Just ensure that this Ed Pysch keeps to her word!!.

[suedenley]

I will attilathemeerkat all was done properly so once thy have typed up the minutes i will have a copy of that and will use it to keep them on their toes. hehe

[possumhead]

Well done! I'm really pleased that it went well for you today. That headteacher needs to be kept an eye on though, keep her on her toes !

[suedenley]

Thanks possumhead i will , she knows ive got her card marked now though ,so dont know if that will make her less devious or more so we will have to wait and see.
Had some bad news today though not unexpected, school nurse observed DS2 in playgrond today and says he has some severe behavior issues and she is going to assess after half term once we have DS1 settled
God i dont think i can go through it all again

[Jimjams2]

Shocked at the EWO comments! And also at the head trying to make sure you missed the meeting!

Glad it went well though....

[suedenley]

Yes the ewo and the head have obviously been in cahoots with each other as they were both singing from the same hymn sheet,both tried to blame DS diet even though weve been over it before> Said if i worked on his diet harder his behaviour would improve , i said to be honest i have enough trouble stopping him from limiting himself further to have time to try and add healthier options and really if they hadnt their own experience of this problem they didnt know what they were talking about (was grateful to the food thread the other day for this as know im not alone on this issue now )and although his diet was made up of rubbish was glad he ate that rather than nothing . The mental health worker stepped in and said noone but her was to address DS1 eating as he had enough stress going on at the moment when the time was right it would be something she would be addressing but that time is not now. I could have kissed her to be honest as apart from on here no one has ever understood this issue before.