Hi everyone, i'm a single parent of a 9 year old son with ASD. I have a few things planned to try and give myself a break from him, but during that time i'll mainly be going to work! DS is a lovable little boy and can be really well behaved when I take him out places (which cost money), or when he's being looked after by others (which costs money). I have limited family support. His main issues are OCD and constant repetitive rambling speech about the most boring things imaginable. He also argues a lot and is of the age where he's trying to assert himself but doesn't quite understand that i'm his parent and not just one of his mates at school who he can be cheeky to! I'm a pretty strict but fair mum. The thing i'm most struggling with is the time spent at home with him. His behaviour and moods seem to swing wildly in one direction to another. I can cope with meltdowns and look at triggers so that's not the problem as such, it is just that it is SO SO DRAINING!! I'm starting to feel quite depressed!! It's like everything that is mad going on his his head I feel I have to process and that i'm the one who is going into some sort of sensory overload! I guess the soloution is to just keep busy and on the go all the time and try to stay away from home but sometimes it's just not possible and costs money. I have friends I can see occasionally when i'm not working, I'm not hugely into mums groups as I find it all a bit cliquey and many mums of neurotypical kids don't really understand what it's all about. I guess what i'm trying to do here is just get a few things off my chest and wonder if there are any other mums who feel the same. Fed up of being a constant source of entertainment to my son and not being the person I was pre motherhood, and not doing anything for me!! any spare time I have is spent on chores and jobs which need doing to the house, which won't get done on their own! How do other mums cope with just constant chatter from their children? I'm fed up of saying Yeh, yes, mmmm, okay yes and the usual .. Aarghhhh!!
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ShropshireLady · 25/07/2014 18:30
Oh my goodness I could have written your post this morning about my 3 year old. He is so antsy and asking the same questions repeatedly about what we're doing each day and seems to want me to meticulously plan every day so he knows what's happening. I am planning something for every day but it's not always going to be a trip somewhere. I am pregnant and have developed SPD (the other kind - pelvic pain) which means I can't walk for hours like I could before..He's the same; manageable on days out, total nightmare at home 
I can relate to the endless rambling, noise making, humming, repetitive noises etc. I just want it to be quiet for a couple of minutes. I've currently barricaded myself in the bathroom so I can use the toilet without him standing on my toes/running the taps/climbing the windowsill/trying to break the shower but instead he's hammering at the door and yelling. I'm dreading the next few weeks even though I'm glad to be seeing more of him.
fortunately we have his multidisciplinary assessment next month so may get the ball rolling with a diagnosis; he's having several meltdowns a day at the moment/has regressed in potty training (poos in his nappy 2 or 3 times after going down for a nap or bedtime so is missing out on sleep) and his behaviour just seems to get worse each week. I feel quite alone and lost with how to handle him at times and I'm so embarrassed with what the neighbours must think.
I'm sorry you're going through it too, this is a good place to talk
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