My DS (7 years old) was diagnosed with Aspergers last years. At the time we realised my DD (10 years old) displayed many traits but she was happy so we had no real cause for concern. However she now has started to not want to go to school and seems to obsess on doing everything absolutely right to the point of lying pretty well if need be just so she can be seen has having done the right thing. She has many fears and worries. I was wondering if any of you with diagnosed Aspie daughters went through a similar thing, if not what was the first sign that your daughter needed extra help?
My Dd1 and dd3 fit the profile for aspergers, Dd1 has no diagnosis and Dd3 has a diagnosis of Asd.
Dd1 can lie the legs off a chair, she lies to cover up her lies and I dont believe she always realises that she is not telling the truth. This can make her very hard to live with [in fact she doesnt live at home anymore]. She has only ever said that she lies so that she doesnt get into trouble.
Dd3 cant lie, she is completely incapable of it although she does try occasionally.
Dd3 struggles with anxiety and transitions are her biggest problem, leaving the house and going to school is really hard for her.
I think with undiagnosed Asd can start to stand out at the age your Dd is because the other girls social skills become so advanced that our girls just cant keep up.
I agree with lisad she needs to be assessed before her anxiety leads to other issues such as depression.
My Aspie nearly 10yo is a boy but just wanted to say that we are having huge success with Huebner's What to do when you worry too much workbook. It is a very well thought out CBT programme for anxious children, there are others in the series to tackle other issues.
thanks a lot for all your messages. It's been very helpful. The signs that a girls needs help because of AS actually seem very similar that the one in a boy ( and I am only too familiar with these!). I don't think we are quite there with my DD. It is so hard sometimes to see what is typical behaviour and what isn't! So we will just keep watching her and see how she gets on. I got the workbook that PolterGoose recommended a few years back for DD and I would recommend it too. Thanks again.