DS2 cannot tolerate anyone winning or being 1st and will only share if it is on his terms etc.
I saw on a screening quiz that this can be exhibited by Autistic?Asperger's? children and as i am in the process of 'proving' my case for a DX I have been identifying and writing down typical common sources of anxiety for him-this and 'interrupting or stopping his playing without warning ' being two of the multi-daily examples.
Just wondered if A) any of you with dx's have this with their child and B) any ideas on strategies etc to try.
My ds1 who has the DX has none of these problems and ds3 tends to be the one who loses out - he canbe reasoned with- however ds2 cannot- the other day we had a meltdown over ds2 and 3 playing the playstation- ds1 was winning- ds2 restarted the game and insisted ds3 then had the weakest character (so he'd lose) - I asked ds2 how he'd feel if he was ds3 and always lost because he had the weakest characters etc- ds2 could not put himself in that position.....all he could see was his need to win. It took 45 mins (in which time for once i reacted to something he said in a very 'unlike-me-way'....I switched off the playstation intemper...which i regreted as this obviously made things 100% worse- then i took ds2 into another room untill after the 45 mins we had gone over and over it and eventually the ONLY way i got him to agree 'different terms' to his own was to explain that if ds3 continued to be the 'loser' he would lose interest and then ds2 would have to be alone....and because he does actually enjoy telling ds3 all his 'facts and figures' (like a running commentary)- he thankfully realised that he did not want that either- its 3 days now and things have been easier- but he cannot 'adapt' this to 'turn taking' on the T.V/Computer etc...so advise/comments PLEASE!!!!!
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How do you 'teach' an AS child that THEY CANNOT WIN or be FIRST EVERY time!!!
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