Feel really low today

[Lillypond]

I had to take DS to nursery this morning (he normally attends afternoons) as the Ed. Psych. is coming in to see him and another child (who attends mornings).

I felt so sad when I left as he looked so confused. He doesn't know any of the children and they were all running around and being noisey and he was just standing there pushing a toy car into his nose, and staring at me as I walked away. His teacher had introduced me to the E.P and I could see her as I left watching him and I just wanted to scoop him up and take him home.

I was trying not to cry when I got outside but it hurts so much to see the others being all busy and interacting and him just standing there dazed. I'm really glad that he's at MS nursery and I hope that he will always be able to cope with MS but seeing him being singled out makes me think that there's no ideal solution for him

I was a bit cross as well because the other child didn't turn up, so all this could have been done in the afternoon anyway and DS wouldn't be there all on his own. Despite him having ASD I think he's done quite well with making friends. He doesn't have a special friend and he tends to observe the others, but there is one little girl that always comes over to him and I'm really sad that he hasn't got her there with him today.

I've cried buckets typing that out.

[MeerkatsUnite]

I used to feel exactly the same seeing my son get observed by the ed pysch at nursery.

Many hugs to you both

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[MeerkatsUnite]

Look at it also this way - the ed pysch report may be instrumental as well in getting a Statement which will help him not just in nursery but for when he starts school too.

[jules27]

Hi lillypond, i have just read your thread and i'm sending you a HUGE hug . My lad has DS and must admit there are days when i have just feel for him. He had a really stressfull couple of months,caused mostly by the fact that his best friend of 6 years ,had to move away.He really struggled with going anywhere on his own,and going into school and finding his friend not there day after day was heart breaking. He would look so lost,i wanted to just scoop him up and take him home with me. He is now doing better and has made some new friends. Keep strong and your ds will be ok.Can you go to pick him up a little earlier and prehaps just have an extra fun and playful afternoon , make up for the lonely morning you both had. (smile)

[Merlot]

Hope you feel better for your weep. Its bloody tough sometimes...and at times, like this, it sort of smacks you in the face doesnt it? Sending a big hug to you too

[Lillypond]

Thanks everyone

Today turned out not so bad after all. I took your advice jules and I took a balloon with me when I picked him up and then we went to the park. He had a lovely time chasing pigeons around . Then when DP got in we went to do a bit of Christmas shooping. He was a bit hyper but we all enjoyed ourselves.

I didn't expect myself to get so upset today and I had been looking forward to the Ed. Psych. visit as it's all progress. One thing that really cheered me up was I heard a little boy say to his mum 'There was another boy called Liam there today'. I was so chuffed that he'd been noticed by someone.

[Blossomhill]

LP - I know, it's so hard sometimes . It's just so horrible thinking of your child being scrutinised but it will be so worth it in the end as the EP is so useful for schooling and advising about it.
Have you considered the language unit? It could be the right balance for ds?
You know where I an if you need me. Hugs B xxx

[coppertop]

I'm glad it turned out okay in the end, Lillypond. Lots of sympathy. It feels horrible when they just look so small and helpless.

I have a pigeon-chaser too. If the sight of ds2 running towards them doesn't scare them off then the manic laughter usually does the trick.

[Saker]

Hi Lillypond

I'm glad you are feeling a bit better. I know what you mean - sometimes I just want to wrap Ds2 with me in our own little world so he doesn't have to deal with the scary world out there.

I'm feeling nervous as Ds2's 1 to 1 is away the next two weeks and they can't cover her at preschool on the Tuesdays so they've asked me to go in to help out. I hate seeing him in preschool because he's not as confident as at home and there are the inevitable comparisons with a roomful of NT 4 year olds. This time there will be plenty younger than him too which is even worse when they are streets ahead! . I have to keep reminding myself that he enjoys it and doesn't make the comparisons (yet at least).

[Lillypond]

Thanks everyone - feeling much better today after a good night's sleep. I can never sleep before appt's etc. so I was exhausted by the time I got in last night.

I don't think DS can go into the unit until reception year, but I should find out about it now anyway. If he gets a place there we won't hesitate, as although he's having group SALT at the moment he's not making any progress.

Saker, I don't think I could cope with helping out at nursery. I'm always the first to drop DS off and I settle him as quickly as possible and then I'm off. Small things really get to me like the other kids taking there own coats off and hanging them up on the right peg while DS just stands there. I wish I knew how to stop making comparisons Hope it's not as hard as you're expecting it to be.