Please help...
I am getting quite upset about the situation with my 19month dd. She is a fantastic girl, great at nursery, good eater, lovely to other toddlers, all things are great, apart from sleep time....
She has 10oz milk after bath and story and teeth clean, and unfortunately still wakes in the night and has up to another 10oz, with a nappy change, at least once.
1)I need to get her changed over from a bottle to a beaker
2) I need to get her to understand that she can settle herself rather than just falling asleep on the bottle.
3) I need to be able to settle her back to zzz in the night without another huge milk in bottle feed.
I appreciate many of you are going to suggest the basics because they have worked for so many but I will just list a few of the many things I have tried over the past 4 months.
- Gradually reducing the qty of milk she has, 1oz every 3/4 days - we get down to under 8oz and she will Not settle.
- Gradually diluting the milk with water, we get to 50/50 and she wakes up after about an hour screeching.
-If we try her with a beaker she just will not have it, we have tried til 11pm for 6 nights. I cannot cope with seeing her as distressed as she gets. If the exhaustion ever does make her fall asleep she is Always up and at it again within an hour.
-Controlled crying - have tried this by the book up to 17 nights in a row, it just leads to a foul tempered girl in the day and me sleep deprived at 6m pregnant. We have tried it for over 5 hours each night for over 10 nights each time, several times over the few months.
-Her room is very cosy, with a dimmer light, black out curtains, lovely soft toys which she just associates with sleeptime, it is always at a recommended temperature, and is very quiet.
PS when I describe 'not settling' I mean screaming and screaming until she is sick all over herself, her bed, the room, etc. She is then inconsolable, I get upset, and back to square one.
I am getting quite down about this and really would love some helpful advice. Have seen our HV who could suggest nothing new and said to persevere with CC, which we did for 17 nights properly, it resulted in me being sleep deprived and feeling very light headed in the day at 6m pregnant, and my daughter in a terrible state pretty much all day, overtired.
Please help x