How long did your baby sleep in your room with you? Bit rambly, sorry...

[boolean]

DD is 20 weeks and sleeping in a crib in our bedroom. As we are coming up to 6 months I am beginning to think about when and how to move her into her own room. We haven't got a cot yet but the crib is borrowed and the owner will want it back soon. Would it be best to move that first so she gets used to her own room before changing her bed?

I am really worried about the idea of her sleeping in her own room, as I get quite panicky when I can't hear her breathing (I am sure most new mums feel the same) and need to check on her all the time. I am just being paranoid, I know, but the idea of her not sleeping in our room is very worrying.

BUT on the other hand (nothing is ever simple, is it?) I can't wait for her to be sleeping in her own room, as she is waking up more during the night now, and I know I am guilty of not letting her settle herself back to sleep, as I don't want DH to be too disturbed as he gets up early and works long hours. So I leap up at the first sign of her being awake and feed her in bed, where she then sleeps til morning.

If any of this sounds familiar I'd love to know what you did!

[Seeline]

Both mine moved out at 6 months. I used to put them into the cot for daytime naps beofre the final move, as well as starting to change them in their new room, and them popping them into the cot to play whilst I tidied up. They both made the move very easily. I relied on a baby monitor, but to be honest, they both seemed so much bigger by that stage I wasn't nearly so panicky as I had been in the beginning.

[chequersmate]

Intended to keep DD in with us til 6 months but at about 5 months I tried her in her cot for a nap and realised how cramped the crib was for her. We couldn't fit the cot in her room so we did it then, it wasn't a problem.

We have a breathing monitor though, so when I turn over in the night I can see the green light flashing with her breathing and find that quite reassuring.

[MrsMattie]

I moved Ds to his own room at 7 mths. He started to pull himself up to standing at that age and would peer through the cot bars and gurgle at us at silly o'clock times. That was enough to convince me that we all needed our own space!

DD is coming up top 4 mths and the thought of her not sleeping beside me is horrifying . She is growing out of her moses basket now, so DH is going to set the cot up next to my bed. I won't move her until I feel OK about it, to be honest...

[Songbird]

About 7 months. I didn't enjoy having dd in with us really, as for the first time ever I found it hard to get a good night's sleep, even when she was sleeping through. Every little sniffle, cough, whinge, and I was up out of bed like a shot! Still a bit like that when she was in her own room, but definitely easier.

Do it, set yourself free

[jobschmob]

Mine went in the next room much much earlier as I just couldn't sleep with them breathing heavily in my room. I would wake up every time they moved or grunted which was completely exhausting!

[bamboobutton]

ds has just gone into his cot (was co-sleeping)and is still in our room and he is 13m, he has only just started sleeping through too.

he wont go into his own room until we move house as his room is being used as an office and storage room.

and your dd will wake up just as much in her own room and then you would have to get out of bed rather than just putting an arm out, we tried having ds in his own room and i got sick of rolling out of bed every 30mins.

[Flier]

about 12 months for both dcs. Was breastfeeding so was easier on me that way. Do you want to put her in another room yet? don't go with popular opinion, do what is right for you as a family.

[FrizzBath]

Four months. And as soon as she went into her own room, she slept through the night for the first time.

Think I was guilty of jumping up and running to pick her up every time I heard her gurgle, assuming she was about to scream, when she probably wasn't even going to wake up. We were both a lot happier after that

[mookickkick]

8 months. and now i'm sleeping in her room

[FiveGoMadInDorset]

DD was a year, DS 8 months still with us will move him in with DD when he is a year and has dropped his dream feed.

[WhereTheWildThingsWere]

We all sleep in one room, with ds 4.7 and dd 13 mo, very cosy.

[luvaduck]

DS is still in with us, cot next to the bed at 18 months. moving him next month and also not looking forward to it!

[MrsJoeMcIntyre]

Mine is still with us, in his bed (cotbed) next to our bed, she is 22mo! I'm not entirely sure what my strategy is now, to be honest...

[MrsJoeMcIntyre]

In his bed???

I have a dd.

[meep]

9 months with dd.

Boolean you sound exactly how I felt about it. Dd is now 19mo and we still have the monitor on beside us - at first we had it turned up full volume and could hear her breathing - have now finally turned it down to teh lowest setting!

We have a breathing monitor for no2 who is due any day to make life a little bit easier for us all.

Dd made the move really easily and tbh we all slept much better. When she is ill with a fever we do drag her cot back through so that she is beside us and know when she has got better when she starts shrieking with delight because she can see us both!

[Beantin]

We moved DS after a week! He prefers his big cot bed that doesn't fit in our room. We have monitor on max and cos of house layout, he's only a few feet away from me really. Get better sleep as he's a bit of a huffy, puffy, squeaky sleeper so I was always on alert and not sleeping. A friend has has real trouble at 9 weeks getting DD into cot after moses, so am glad we did it sooner rather than later....but reading this thread I feel mean!

[lou031205]

DD1- 5.5 months. We had gone to France to visit in-laws, and she slept in a cot in our room. Seemed silly to put her back in a crib on return to UK, so went into her own room.

DD2- This is her 4th Night, and she is 19 months old! She was in a crib from birth to 4 months, co-sleeping from 4 months-10 months, then in a cot beside me from 10 months till now.

[boolean]

Wow, thanks for all the replies everyone!! It sounds like we just need to pick a suitable time and go for it...

[sweetkitty]

DD1 15 months
DD2 13 months
DD3 8 months and still in with us

coslept with them all (not at same time) transition to cot and own room was fine for DD1 and 2. Am not planning to move DD3 until she is a year.

[GentleOtter]

Ds2 is 21 months now and in his cot in our room. He sleeps very well but I think he should be in his own room now.
How did you take to moving them out? Was it hard going or odd at first?

[ten10]

Moved DS into his own cot in his own room at approx 8 weeks old,
he much preferred it to the moses basket and slept better and for longer immediately, and started to go through the night very soon after this.

the room is next to mine and I kept the doors ajar so I could hear if he woke up.

[lou031205]

GentleOtter, we prepared her room, and then we just showed her the new room, and told her that is where she would sleep. She woke the first night, and after 2 hours of her crying and us trying to comfort her, we realised that there was a ticking clock driving her barmy . The last 2 nights she slept through no problems at all.

[GentleOtter]

Thanks lou
We will have to move him soon I suppose but it will feel strange without all the little noises.

[popsycal]

ds1 around 9 months
ds2 around 18 months for a whoe variety of reasons
ds3 is 6 months tomorrow with no immediate intention of moving him out