Hi,
Sorry in advance, it's a bit long, but we're both getting to a stage where we could Really use some advice.
My 7.5 month old used to go down to sleep well. Admittedly I have always nursed him to sleep at the start of the night, but he reacted well to this and we didn't see a problem. His routine has been flexible but has always appeared to calm him, and he has been sleeping reasonably well (with around five wakes during the night, but that's another issue, lol).
This last week or so however, he has been getting worse and worse at it, refusing to settle in any way, refusing to latch to have his "last feed" and being most unsettled.
His usual routine:
- Solid meal at around 6pm or so
- Relaxed play on his mat for half an hour to an hour
- A feed, relaxing with his daddy till he shows signs of tiredness, then
- The last bedtime feed and going up to his cot asleep
He has no real trouble settling down when he wakes in the night (well, mostly).
He has been further disrupted by a 24hr bug combined with a bout of teething, which has led us to where we are now:
- Routine as usual
- Mat as usual
- Relaxed time as usual
- Refuses feed, gets upset on me
- Gets upset on Daddy
- Gets upset on mat
The last three interchange now, with him wanting off whoever or whatever he is on to go somewhere else within minutes, and working himself up to a frenzy by which point a night of stress and very little sleep results on all sides.
We've tried a more rigid routine (didn't work, he got upset as soon as he was left), putting him down earlier when he drifted off (he has started to wake up on me as soon as I try and move), some controlled crying (he just refuses to stop crying and settle down in the bits where you are meant to calm him), leaving him in the cot with us in the room/touching his chest to calm him (also doesn't work, he works up to the frenzy in any event). All of these just seem to have made him more and more clingy to the point where during the day he cannot be left anywhere to do "solo play" as he cries.
Any advice would help, we're due to go on our second planned wee holiday soon (we cancelled the first one as we couldn't get him used enough to going out to new places), and neither of us can face the thought of doing anything or going anywhere while he is like this (and I'm not even thinking of the 6 hour journey).
And happy Xmas given that it appears to be Xmas Eve!