3 1/2 years old and still doent sleep though the night

[RLR]

my dd is 3 and a half and still wakes in the night she has got a bit better and now only wakes between 1 and 3 times a night as she used to wake more than that, but none of my friends kids are like this, what do u think i should do as she climbs into bedin with me and my partner,the other night she woke and came into our room and this time i said no no more now your a big girl lets put u back into ur bed, well she sobbed her heart out and my partner said dont be tight just let her get in, so that plan went to pot. This cant go on for much longer as soon im going to have a big belly soon as im pregnant.but its coming between me and dp.

[RLR]

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[moljam]

i have no advice but wanted to say i care!my ds is 21 months and weve started cc tonight

[funnypeculiar]

How hard line do you want to be?
Have you tried a good old fashioned star chart? Ds has always been a mixed sleeper, but the promise of a reward for 5 stars sorted him out (at about 2 3/4yrs). It was surprisingly easy & effective.
Although we still get in bed with him if he has nightmares, but I'm quite happy with that...

[winestein]

I think there is a thing called "rapid return" for older kids. As soon as they come in to your room/bed, you don;t talk to them - just take them straight back to bed - each and every time. It will be hard work to start with, but it pays off.

I don;t think there is an easy answer or a shortcut - you will just have to grit your teeth.

Good luck!

[RLR]

thanks ladies, in the past i have tried the star chart thing and she just wasnt bother about getting a nice gift for her efforts, and a few months ago i did start taking her back to bed but as soon as i got back into mine she would be there again at my bed side , or within the next 5 minutes. she starts school today so i was going to say to her teacher if she has time could she talk to the class about being big girls and boys and sleeping in their own beds to see if that works at this stage its worth a go.

[Notyummy]

I agree with winestein on rapid return. I know you have tried it, but I believe it can take a few horrendous nights of 10/20/30 returns and much sobbing (seen it on dear Dr Byron's show!) before it works...but it does work. You may feel crap at the time, but you are teaching her a life skill, and you NEED your sleep at the moment. I would bite the bullet and do it now before you get too huge and tired...you need to get dp on board as well tho. Might be worth pointing out that you will expect HIM to be doing all the night wakings for the older dc once the new baby arrives if you haven't sorted it out before....!