Hi,
I'm hoping someone can help me. I have a beautiful, generally happy 11 month old. But she won't sleep. Ever. And has now started to refuse her solids.
I have tried 3 different sleep consultants now and have followed each programme religiously for 3 weeks each time, with no improvement. I have no more money for these things (they are now outstanding debts) so have come in search of help.
To cut a long story short, my daughter has severe ige mediated cows milk and soy allergy and severe silent reflux. Despite 14 visits to the GP, these conditions were missed until she was 5.5 months old. She eventually was diagnosed with failure to thrive and that finally made the GP actually listen to the sobbing mum in her consult room (me), instead of telling me that 'babies do cry, you know' and asking me 'is this your first baby'? We had a referral to a specialist and we got a swift diagnosis following a one week hospital stay.
She is now gaining weight nicely and is much more comfortable, but I still can't get her sleeping. I once (once) got her to sleep for 5 hours using pick up put down, but now she is back to waking every hour, even when I soothe her and don't feed her overnight.
We have a good bedtime routine, honed by the three sleep consultants, and feed about an hour before bed, so there is no milk anywhere near her bedtime.
I am changing to bottle feeding in desperation to get her sleeping, which makes me sad, as I loved breastfeeding.
Also, initially at weaning, she ate everything and anything we put in front of her. But this has deteriorated to the current time, where she refuses any solids we offer her. So that is an issue that may also be affecting her sleep, and is creating intense anxiety for me.
I am so lost, so tired and so lonely. All my mum friends babies sleep through the night and eat well and they are bored of hearing me moan about my woes.
I would do anything, anything (apart from controlled crying or cry it out) to help her eat and sleep. She is really struggling with sleep deprivation, and so am I.
Any ideas? The specialist and gp just tell me to do controlled crying and have no sympathy for me so that is a dead end.
Can anyone help? I love her immensely but I am going mad.
Thanks xxx
Ps I started my parenting journey feeding on demand, breast feeding exclusively until 9 months and co sleeping until 4 months.
Now I am on a structured routine, in line with natural circadian rhythms, mix feed (as I go back to work on Monday) and she sleeps independently in her cot in her own room. She settles well in 15 minutes and there is no shred of feeding to sleep, apart from me feeding her every other wake up overnight.
I could take a loan if anyone has a sleep consultant that can actually help, as I'm so desperate and should be able to pay it back when I start work, but I would like someone who actually supports me and helps me as I am very tired and emotional and now need a bit of hand holding through this.
But really, I wondered if anyone had any advice at all that might help.
Do you just get non sleeping babies and might I have to wait till she is three to get her sleeping? (AGh)
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On my knees. 11 month old wakes hourly since birth and won't eat solids. Please help.
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Oofy2016 · 03/10/2016 13:17
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