8 months on and still waking every 1-2 hours

[31firsttimemum]

My DS1 is an awful sleeper and has been from day one. I'm a reluctant BF co-sleeper. I say reluctant as I'd really like to fall into a deep sleep in my own bed, which I can't do when he's lying next to me. I mange to get him into his own bed at around 7pm after the usual routine- dinner, bath, song, feed. (I'd try a story but he gets frustrated when I turn the page and he can't chew the book!). He then wakes after 45 mins, and then every 1-2 hours. At about midnight I'm too knackered to come back into his room and stroke/pat so he comes in with me. He still wakes but at least I can comfort him lying down. Sometimes he feeds sometimes he just wants a cuddle. I also have a high energy DD, which makes the days pretty intense. I'm back to work in a month and have no idea how that's going to work apart from lots of caffeine!

Any reassurance it'll get better!?! I know it's because he can't self settle but I struggle to let him cry, plus I don't want him to wake DD either.

[DollyBarton]

Own room own room own room. I had the same baby as you and same tears and frustrations till 3 weeks ago when I moved her into her own room. She went from 10 wake ups a night to zero from the first night. Similar thing with my last baby although she wasn't as bad to begin with.

[DollyBarton]

Try it. Honestly. I had to share with her in my mums house again last weekend and after 2 weeks of beautiful perfect sleeping through, yep, she was up 6 times being in the room with me. I think people don't realise how much babies sometimes like space and quiet and assume the baby want co-sleeping as their first choice. I co-slept with all 3 of mine by the way until it became harder rather than easier at about 6-7 months (same thing happened with them all).

[Cuppaand2biscuits]

It's so hard but I see lots of mum's and babies and it's still quite normal for them to wake so frequently at 8 months.
I'd say you need to choose what you want and stick to it. Either set up your bed so you can Co sleep full time, that way he can latch on with minimal disruption to you.
Or put him in his bedroom and stick to it, by going in to him and comforting him in there.
I hope things get easier when you go back to work, you might find that by then you've had enough and you're so desperate to rest that you will leave him to cry.
Best of luck. X

[fluffikins]

Id say persevere with what you're doing. I had the same set up, on own bed and then came in with me when I gave up. Ultimately she got better on her own, she's still waking at least once in the night at 14 months but it's a lot better and she reliably does a 7-11 stint so worst case I can always go to bed super early and sleep, but generally she wakes at 11 and then goes down until 5:30.