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cabbageleaf · 19/08/2015 08:02

DS hasn't slept well since the four month sleep regression, he is now 8 months corrected age and still a bad sleeper. I have run out of things to try and help him sleep better, he adapted quite well to all changes I have made but so far I have found nothing that actually improved his sleep for more than a few days.

This night has been awful, he went to sleep without any problems at all at 7.30 after two fantastic naps during the day - 2.5 hours in total, which is about three times what he usually naps, woke four hours before his bedtime from his second nap - but then he woke at 1 am and just couldn't settle. For 2.5 hours!! It looked like he was going to drop off at least ten times, but then he'd wake again. After an hour, he started crying, and in the end, seeing as I had no idea what the problem was, I did a sort of CC with me trying to calm him every few minutes and leaving him to cry in-between.

I wish someone could give me a hint that would magically make him sleep better, but I know it's not going to happen. I have reached the conclusion that I just have to wait for his sleep to get better as he gets older, because nothing I do seems to help. But I am just so sick of waking up every day thinking 'I hope this day will be over soon '. I just want to enjoy DS and not drag myself around bleary-eyed every fucking day.

Sorry this is long but I really needed a rant.

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jki1 · 19/08/2015 11:34

I have the same problem and my DS is now 12 mo. Last night he went to sleep Ok at 7.30pm and then woke at 10.30pm but settled back and woke again at 11.30pm for a last bottle. He then slept until 1.30am and woke but settled fairly quickly but the s**t hit the fan at 3.45am when he woke and nothing I could do would stop him grizzling and crying. He finally went back to sleep at 5.30am by which time I was so wired I couldn't sleep. And today I am at work trying to get by on 4 hours sleep. I am so depressed and its causing arguments with my partner all the time because we are both so stressed. I have no idea what to do. Every night I think I can get through this, it's not so bad but then it seems so bloody awful in the middle of the night. We have tried CC but it didn't seem to work. I am sick of trying to say it's wind or teething, I think it's just him. I need help but I have no idea where to turn, doctors and HVs are no help at all. I feel like I'm about to have a breakdown :-(

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jki1 · 19/08/2015 11:34

Sorry cabbageleaf, that wasn't helpful to you but I just needed a rant too!

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cabbageleaf · 20/08/2015 09:18

No, wasn't too helpful but I understand you needed to get that off your chest! Sounds like you are having a really tough time. Do you have family who can help every now and then? Or a friend you could leave your DS with for a couple of hours during the day? Can you work shifts with your DP on weekends so that you both get a break?

Having to go to work on so little sleep must be awful, I feel for you!