...and then at least twice in the night, usually more. He is nearly 11 months old, and I've posted about him before, and it's not getting better :(
He has a bedtime routine. He has dinner, books and playing with DH (or a bath then slightly less books and playing), then a bottle with cuddles and Bing (not great I know, but he gets really sleepy like this whereas books excite him too much). We go upstairs, brush his teeth, then I lie with him in his dark bedroom (DH goes back downstairs and starts cleaning up after dinner, tidying etc). He can breastfeed if he wants to (always does, some days more than others), has his dummy and goes to sleep. I then pop him in his cot.
He will always wake up about an hour later, and will only settle back to sleep with boob. But he barely even sucks, really just wants to hold them (and dig his nails in and twist my nipples ). During his night wakings he will feed a bit, then take his dummy back and when he's asleep I can pop him back in the cot, it doesn't usually take long, it's the amount that's killing me...
Tonight for the first wake up (an hour after he peacefully went to bed) I went and offered boob in case he was hungry, thought he went back to sleep and moved him to the cot, when he immediately started fussing, spitting his dummy out, standing up etc. So (as agreed for trying to brreak this habit), DH went in.
I so, so want him to learn that he can fall asleep without my boobs being right next to him. I know that surely eventually if we stick with this (only for first wake up initially, not after we go to bed) he will learn that its ok and go to sleep no bother, BUT...
...I'm now sat downstairs listening to DS screaming his head off, even though DH is right there with him, and it's horrible :( he is being cuddled, he is fed and watered, he has even had medicine as DH thinks he might be teething, but he is just crying hysterically (and judging by what I can hear from the baby monitor sporadically clawing DH's face...)
I don't know what to do. He won't settle for me without boob, just claws at me until I give in, this was supposed to be gentler but it doesn't feel that way :(
Does anyone have any advice? Anyone else been through this? I just don't know what to do anymore. We used to cosleep but then he woke every hour, in his own room it's every 2-4... He's been screaming his head off for half an hour now even though DH is right there :(
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squigglehead · 14/08/2015 20:48
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