Hi, any help or advice much appreciate - I am at my wits end !!!! I am just so fed up of using sleep training and it not seeming to work and I don't know why ! I am trying to night wean my 10 month old DD as when I feed her at night when she wakes, she wakes without fail 3-4 hours later and doesn't sleep through until morning unless I wait until 3am to feed her. She has been in her cot in her own room since 4 months. We used to co-sleep when she was newborn but transitioned to her sleeping on her own quite quickly as I couldn't sleep with her next to me. She doesn't have a dummy. She is breastfed and eats 3 meals a day with some snacks sometimes and water. She doesn't seem to have a very large appetite. She breastfeeds well at roughly 7, 11, 3 and 6.30pm. Sometimes she has an extra small breastfeed at around 1.30pm after lunch. She self settles for naps (doesn't cry longer than a minute or two) and self settles for bedtime (less than 5 mins crying and sometimes no crying at all) and she is not fed to sleep anymore. She has a solid bedtime routine starting at 6.15pm and ending at 7pm:
Bath - Formula top up - Breastfeed - Teeth clean - Pyjamas - Story & crawling around - Musical wind up toy - Quick cuddle - "Time to sleep now" - Kiss and place in cot on her front and give her teddy. Walk out of room.
She has had pretty much this exact solid routine since she was 2 months old although she used to be breastfed to sleep until maybe 8 months old. She has a teddy in her bed which she is quite attached to and I see her cuddling whilst she is asleep or trying to get to sleep. She can now stand up in her cot.
We started sleeping training when she was almost 9 months old as she was consistently waking up at 10.30pm (just as I was about to go to sleep!), 2.30am, 4am and 6am....NOT GOOD. I was knackered and we had tried variations of DH trying to settle her without me feeding her....Leaving her for 5 mins to see if she'd settle herself...Me feeding her but with only one breast to try and gradually lessen night feedings etc. But things seemed to be getting worse and worse and she was less able to get back to sleep properly without a breastfeed. She was eating 3 meals a day at this point but varying appetite.
So we did CC recommending by a friend who used a sleep clinic - we put white noise in her room which helped a lot I think - then we decided that I wouldn't feed her until Midnight. So when she woke at 10.30 we left her for 5 mins then went into her room, patted her bum, said "Time to sleep" in firm but soothing voice and walked out of the room. She then didn't cry for any longer than 5 mins we didn't need to go in there again the first night ! And she just cried on and off for about an hour...the next night it was less and the next night even less etc etc until she stopped waking for that 10.30pm feed. We were chuffed because this meant she now slept until around 2.30am until waking and crying for a feed. We thought it had worked !! Then various things interrupted this routine like travelling and staying at someone else's house...illness...But we got her back on track for just 2.30am feed relatively easily once things were settled again. A couple of times she even slept through with no feed ! But then she started waking up early like 5am after this 2.30am feed...So I thought ok maybe we are ready to night wean so she's not confused and that it's just clear that there is no feeding at night time until at least 6am. Well we are in the process of trying to do that but she will no consistently cry for 1-1.5 hours every night between like 3am and 5am. On and off crying...like she will settle herself for 5, 10 or 20mins of sleep then wake up crying again on and off for sometimes 2 hours ! We are so exhausted and she is grumpy every morning until her first nap of the day. (2 hours after she wakes up.) We do the 2-3-4 thing for daytime naps. And often she is refusing her breakfast after about 4 teaspoons of porridge although she seems hungry at first.
Last night it totally felt like we had gone backwards again - she woke at 1am and was on-and-off crying until 2am when she fell asleep for 1 hour and then woke crying at 3am when I fed her (Recently I have thought she's NOT ready for night weaning as she is putting up so much of a fight for so long now that I thought ok I'll feed her no earlier than 3am. And then at least she'll sleep until 6 or 6.30am.
Please help! ! Any idea why she is waking up and settling herself but then waking up after 5,10 or 20 mins asleep and doing this on-and-off for up to 2 hours every night ??? And it's not low level crying it's screaming !! Any idea why if I feed her at her earliest wake up (say 1am) she will then not sleep through until morning but will wake up again at 4 or 5 crying again? I thought she has quite good self settling habits and we aren't feeding or rocking to sleep and deal with night wakings in a pretty consistently boring fashion, no singing, rocking, chatting, fussing, not much interaction but just quick and boring reassurance. I thought we were doing the right thing to teach her good sleep habits. And I just can't deal with the stress of listening to her cry in the early hours of the morning any more I feel like I'm going to explode with stress every night and then am annoyed and irritable, tired and exasperated in the morning rather than happy to see my lovely baby... :-( Feel so crap about it ! please help !!!
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eepie · 15/05/2015 09:01
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