Right, my 6 1/2 month old is not a very good sleeper. Well, no.. she's fine during the day with naps, just not so good at night. She often needs settling more than once during the evening, and never sleeps more than 3 hours without waking either for reassurance or food. We co-sleep after the first main wake in the night.
My boyfriend moved out into the spare room the day she was born, and we've not slept in the same bed since. He often just shuts the door saying 'good luck' before bedtime. I sort of don't mind this - in all honesty, if he's not involved in the bedtime routine at all, she'll sleep all evening without needing to be settled and will sleep better at night (although still in my bed).
Now I've started to mix feed, he's keen to be involved in feeding her and with the bedtime/nighttime stuff. He still doesn't want to get up after 11.30 at night though, so not all that helpful really, but the willing is there now so I need to take advantage of it.
He used to have a way of getting her to sleep that involved rocking for 10+ minutes, but now doesn't want to use that. So nothing is working, and she gets steadily more and more wound up until he gives up and brings her in to me/comes and gets me. At which point she's quiet and goes to sleep on her own after a bit of chatting and flapping.
My feeling is that he's just got to keep working on it. Is there anything else I can suggest to him? Or a way that I could make it easier for him? He just keeps blathering on about it 'being time for' controlled crying.. a whole two weeks after getting involved!!
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ohthegoats · 30/04/2015 11:26
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