Please help, getting increasingly upset and frustrated.
DD is only 14wo. She had been sleeping through from about 4 weeks (I know, I know) from around 10pm to 5-7am. She used to nap well, often over 6 hrs a day.
Then she started going to bed earlier at night, around 8pm and often was sleeping 9-11 hrs a night!!!
I don't know why or when it changed, but night sleep and naps have dropped awfully, every day is a battle trying to get her to nap. I've tried swaddling, rocking, dummy, lullabies, stroking, pushchair, driving, sling, walking outside... In the last month she hasn't had over 2.5 hrs a day.
She's then obviously, and understandably, cranky at nighttime. We have the same routine every day and she seems to enjoy it (bath at about 6.30, book, last feed, feed to sleep by before 8. I am going to try making this all earlier to see if she's just overtired again and it might help? Honestly I have no idea what I'm doing.) After she's fallen asleep I try to scoot her into her bednest, then she frequently wakes and starts crying. I sometimes manage to shush/pat her back to sleep but normally give up and feed back to sleep and try all over again, or just do side lying in our bed and let her stay with me all night.
But she's been sleeping awfully for weeks now, waking anywhere from 2-5 times a night, always at different times. I try to get her back to sleep without feeding but mostly give up and resort to feeding her back to sleep.
This morning she napped for 45 mins at around 90 mins after wake up (I rocked her to sleep then put her down on my bed, not in her bednest incase she woke), then we went to an activity so I couldn't 'make' her sleep 90 mins after the next wake up, later she dozed off in pram for around 20 mins but woke up and then just now really fought to go to sleep, I'm talking screaming for about 10-15 mins. I just shushed and rocked until she fell asleep then sat down on gliding chair I was afraid to stop moving! but now she's woken up after 36 mins. There were no loud noises, motion didn't stop, she just woke up. She's happy enough now, I fed her and she fussed a bit but seems ok.
It upsets me so much, I'm normally in tears every day cos I can't get her to sleep, and she's crying or screaming every day, I can't just put her down and let her fall asleep, if I rock her to sleep I then can't put her down, at night it's tough too as it just seems to take forever to get her to go to sleep.
I just don't know what I'm doing, if this is normal, should it be this hard to get a tired baby to go to sleep? What am I doing wrong? I know it's normal for baby to need comfort so I don't begrudge 'having to' cuddle her, rock her, feed her, of course, it's just frustrating when I've done the nappy/feed/cuddle checklist and she's tired but won't go to sleep, and cries her heart out, but I am trying to get her to sleep. If it's 'just a phase' I can suck it up and crack on, it just feels like I'm doing something wrong, and if I can I want to rectify it.
I don't intend to do any CC PUPD techniques yet as I know they're not supposed to be used until after 4 months, but if anyone can tell me what I'm doing wrong or give me tips to get her to sleep longer I would be so grateful.
I know some people will be having worse problems so please don't judge me for what might be trivial to some of you, it's awful previously having had such good sleep and it's got worse, everything is relative and now it's much worse and I don't know what to do to make it better. I feel like a totally deficient mother.
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hotfuzzra · 16/03/2015 17:35
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