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gizmosmama · 24/01/2015 21:12

I have tonight embarked upon a future without a dummy for my LO. I introduced it reluctantly when he was 6wo on advice of the HV because DS was such a sucky baby and spending a lot of time distressed. I don't regret it, it served a valuable purpose. I wanted to get rid of it by 6mo as I was told he wouldn't know at that stage but DS has always been a shockingly bad sleeper and I just couldn't face loosing my crutch! I did manage to make it just for sleep from quite early on but nonetheless, DS has always been incredibly attached to his dummy, going crazy as soon as he catches sight of it. The sleep dummy situation has worked well for us, helping to slightly ease the pain of a frequent waker, that is until a couple of months ago. DS has (no idea why!) started to get better at night, so much so that he only now wakes for his dummy and once replaced, goes immediately back to sleep. Wonderful I thought! Until I realised I was now waking up every 1 1/2 hours to get out of bed, go down the hall, give DS his dummy, go back to bed and take ages to get back to sleep myself. I technically had a sleeper-througher but was still nackered. What made it worse was that before I could reason that it would get better with time, I now had the sad realisation that I would be doing this for years! Add to that I'm 12wks pregnant with LO2 so in 6months time I'd have 2 babies to wake up for!
So I decided tonight is the night to ditch the dummy.
So far so good, went down at 7 and only took 10 minutes to get to sleep without the dummy. He was crying but not hysterical. I stayed with him, shush-patting as I'm not one for leave to cry.
So far only one wake up and only took 5 minutes to get back to sleep.
I've thrown the dummy in the bin so I'm not tempted to break during the night when I'm tired and weak!
Even though I've been pleasantly surprised with progress so far (I think credit to a lot of mental build up) I'm still dreading the night ahead. I'd love to hear from any been-there-done-thaters who can offer any "Don't worry"s. Also, anyone with any idea how long this takes - a week/month (please don't say longer!)?
Apologies for crazy long post, just feels like a massive thing for us and felt the need to share!

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Changedup · 25/01/2015 14:27

Hello, just wanted to see how you'd got on. I have a dd who is almost 1 who also loves her dummy so I envisage having this situation in a while. Hope it went ok for you both last night. How old is your ds?

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