8 months and so unsettled

[ChantelleJDA]

My daughter is now 8 months old but pretty much since she's been born she's been such an unsettled baby. Hardly sleeps through the day and is up at least 4 times a night. Iv spoke to my HV and done everything she told me what to do and if anything Aisha is just getting worse. I was in labour for 48 hours before having an emergancy c section. I was in a lot of pain and a lot of stress was put onto my daughter the pain was so bad I got given a drug Id never heard of before and to what people tell me I looked out of it on drugs badly. This was a traumatising time for me and my daughter and I was wondering if anyone had any information or advice they could give me. Can having such a traumatic labour make my baby so unsettled?

[Tangoandcreditcards]

To reassure you, I had a v straightforward 4hr labour and DS (8mo this week) is similarly unsettled. I'm sorry to hear you had a tough time, but it might not be related.

I've had some luck settling him back down by giving him water in his cot instead of a feed at night in the last month and now he's only up 2 or 3 times. And it seems to get getting easier to resettle him (most of the time)

He only sleeps for 20 mins a go 3 x a day, but in the last week has got better at dropping off for these naps before he gets angry (previously it's been 40mins of trying to settle him for 20 mins nap). I'm sorry that I honestly can't tell you how or why it happened.

Is she crawling/teething? Every time DS gets a bit more active we have a few bad nights.

[Dontforgetyourbrolly]

OP I had the easiest birth in the world (2 hours no pain killers no tears or stitches) and my 8 mo is the devil in disguise during the night! So please don't worry that your little one is traumatised.

Me and dp at the end of our tethers ! I recently gone back to work and dp been very poorly so we need sleep. Decided to leave ds when he wakes. I must add, he doesn't cry , just grunts angrily and shouts . Last night he woke at 9 pm and it was so hard but we did not go to him. It took 45 mins it was torture but he slept thru til 4 am with no stirring. Gave him milk. Slept til 5.30 then gave him a cuddle and he slept til 7am. It was a miracle it's the most sleep we have had for months.

Tonight he was tired at bedtime but as usual he's rolling around shouting but only took 15 mins and he was fast asleep even though his dummy fell out. Usually I'd have been in and out countless times, and the reality is it's just stopping him settling

I know it's not for everyone but he's had mega long naps today and is a laughing little boy instead of a grizzly baby with eye bags.