10 week old and day naps

[newmum36]

My ds is 10 weeks today.
At night he is swaddled and goes down at around 6.30pm. I gave him a dummy to settle him for the evening until last week when I decided to see what he would do without it. He moans on and off for about 10 - 15 minutes fighting sleep but then gives up and drifts off - hurray (we started to use dummy when he was absolutely hysterical at 4 - 5 weeks so this is a change) and goes til around 10 - 10.30 when we feed him for the night. He has slept until 6am but in the last few nights has woken at 4am and also 5am.
I am really struggling with day naps though. He is tired within an hour to an hour and a quarter from last waking - so, around 8.30am (he may have had a little sleep earlier if woken really early) and then around 11.30 and in the afternoon around 3.30. He is clearly knackered but will not go to sleep ! I had been giving him his dummy and he goes out like a light (with me popping it in and out a few times) but if I use it in the day, will he start wanting it to go down at night again? I tend to get him to nap downstairs during the day in his buggy in the dining room....it's quiet or if I'm out in the car seat or buggy. He'll go off if in motion eventually(nothing unusual there then) but it makes no difference whether I see his sleepy signs and catch him before overtired if I put him down at the right time, he still complains ! He's been really grotty today fighting sleep and it seems as though he's been grizzling all day.
Oh yes, during the day if I don't give him the dummy, he's trying to shove his thumb in his mouth and is getting reeeeaaally frustrated that he can't. At night he's swaddled so can't get to his thumb yet.
Am I being mean and should I offer the dummy back again in the day?....any other suggestions for getting him off.
THanks!
Help !!

[CantSleepWontSleep]

I would try swaddling him during the day as well. The reflex that causes their limbs to move involuntarily works just as much during the day as at night, and this is often what keeps them awake.

We swaddled DD day and night until she was over 5 months.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

10 weeks is very young to pick up bad habits, in fact it is supposed to be impossible for them to pick up "habits" before 3 months.

Do whatever comforts your DS. There really isnt any harm in dummies or feeding/cuddling to sleep.

He's only a tiny baby, he just wants comfort. If a dummy does it, then thats fine. IMO.

[deaconblue]

I agree. Small babies are so sucky. My ds rarely wants his now (21 weeks), but used it a lot when he was newborn. He has always spat it out soon after dropping off to sleep. I really don't think a dummy causes harm short term.

[liquidclocks]

when DS was this little I found he would sleep well for an hour and a bit in the morning from about 8.45, then again for 3 hrs over lunch timish but like yours wouldn't settle though clearly tired around 4-4.30 ish. I decided to get into the habit of going for a walk around then, rain or shine! worked a treat and was good for me too

Wouldn't worry about the dummy yet - if it helps then use it, he'll probably start spitting it out at some point but at the moment he doesn't have the co-ordination to 'find his thumb' - if you want to try and let go for his thumb instaed of a dummy him wait another 4-5 weeks. Plenty of time for weaning him off it later anyway. (Don't know how you're fgeeding but if he's FF he probably needs the comfort of sucking right now anyway as they don't get to do it for as long each day as a BF baby)