Hi all
I've been co-sleeping with ds (26 months) in his room since we moved house in May.
For the most part, I love co-sleeping - throughout the night, it works fine. But since we moved, settling ds at bedtime has gone from taking 15 minutes, then half-an-hour, and more - and last night, I was with him from 7.45pm until 10.15pm. And I got hit, kicked and bitten - all semi-playfully, and nothing like sweet ds during the day, but totally demoralising all the same.
My mum recently had ds for the evening, and said ds was asleep by 7.15pm laying next to her. So I've clearly somehow let things get the way they have.
I absolutely need some evening time to pursue my hobbies and have time with dp and friends. But our evenings now completely revolve around trying to settle ds: I lay next to him, the odd pat or stroke or shhh, in his quiet, dark room. And he climbs on me, hits me, kicks me, throws pillows around the room, climbs on/off the bed, etc. I'm feeling resentful, which isn't good for any of us. (Ds actually says, "Are you feeling frustrated, Mum? Are you very cross?" )
He's gone from getting 11 hours sleep a night and a two-hour nap to being chronically over-tired because he's going to sleep so late.
So, while I'm happy to sneak back into ds's room at my bedtime to co-sleep for the night, I can't continue with evenings like this. I don't want to leave ds to cry, but after this recent hitting/kicking started, I have toyed with putting a stair gate across his door and sitting out of arm's reach the other side, reading a book next to the night light in the hall. That way I'd be really close still, and visible, but would be showing him there's a consequence to hitting Mum. Would this be horrible?!
I'm not sure about reward systems but have been tempted to try one ... is there anything else I can try that might enable ds to go to sleep peacefully and relatively quickly?
Thank you
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eggybreadandbeans · 07/08/2006 14:30
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