Am I being really lazy by sleeping in the day?

(40 Posts)
HappyGoLuckyGirl Thu 05-Sep-13 12:18:21

I have a 10 week old DS. He's amazing and a very good baby sleep wise. For example, the past few nights he's gone down between 8-8.30pm and slept until 2.30ish.

At this point I'm not feeding him at all through the night (bottle fed) as he doesn't cry when he wakes, just whinges and I can shush and rock him back to sleep. He gets unsettled every half an hour or so until about 5am when I will feed him.

He then goes back down until about 9am. So all in all, a very good sleeper.

Thing is I like to nap when he does during the day, mostly around lunchtime. I have a SIL who I love but is mother bloody earth and she always makes me feel bad for sleeping through the day. Not on purpose as she isn't nasty but just because she says she never went back to sleep during the day, went out for walks every day etc.

So, am I being really lazy or is sleeping through the day okay, even if you have a good sleeper?

Apologies for how long that was!

YoniBottsBumgina Thu 05-Sep-13 12:19:32

Oh god no! You have a ten week old!

crazyhamsterbackatlast Thu 05-Sep-13 12:21:50

God no of course not , I still do & my Ds is 4 .
He never sleeps through ever so by dinner time I can't keep my eyes open

Fancies40Winks Thu 05-Sep-13 12:23:07

Dear me. You're getting what, 4 hours unbroken sleep until 2.30am then are up most of the night with your baby, and think a nap makes you lazy? If that were me the nap would be my only link with sanity. Sod your sil and enjoy your nap.

MortifiedAdams Thu 05-Sep-13 12:24:37

Not lazy at all in sleeping - however - he sounds unsettled between 2.30 & 5 and you feed him at five. Id feed him at 2.30, then he may just go back to a full sleep til 5/6.

Lavenderhoney Thu 05-Sep-13 12:30:08

Sleep when you can- and don't tell her you are. Turn off the phones and door and say you are meditating and must not be disturbed.

As an alternative, you could say " I do workout DVDs, would you like to borrow one?" But that might be mean if she is overweight.

But really, its up to you. What she did is of no relevance - sorry to trot it out again but all babies and mums are different. She isn't an instant expert just because she had dc before you. You will do things differently all the time I expect. Just smile and nodsmile

HappyGoLuckyGirl Thu 05-Sep-13 12:33:47

I know, I keep telling myself that I have a young baby and should cut myself some slack but I do just feel really guilty.

Mortified - the reason I'm waiting until 5am to feed him is because we've had about 10 days or so of him sleepibg right through, until 5-6am. I don't really want to get him used to a night feed again.

It doesn't help that DSIS always reminds me that her DD was sleeping through by 6 weeks and that by 3 months babies can and should be sleeping the whole night without any feeds. sad

HappyGoLuckyGirl Thu 05-Sep-13 12:36:05

Lavender grin that meditation plan is a good idea! She's very straight laced so it would definitely not sit very well, haha.

UC Thu 05-Sep-13 12:36:52

Ignore her, on all counts. Sleep when you want to!

Fancies40Winks Thu 05-Sep-13 12:38:15

Your sil is a pain in the arse. She'll get a nasty shock if she has a non-sleeping DC2. Don't worry about her, you're doing great.

Binkybix Thu 05-Sep-13 12:42:23

My 11 week old is no where near sleeping through! Your sil is wrong and stupid smile nap away!

MortifiedAdams Thu 05-Sep-13 12:49:30

Well, my dd is nearly two and tucked up for her nap and so am I. Tell your sis night night from super lazy Mortified!

HappyGoLuckyGirl Thu 05-Sep-13 12:58:33

You're all right. Thank you for putting me straight! I'm going to nap away grin

AidanTheRevengeNinja Thu 05-Sep-13 19:33:38

I still nap and my DS is 6.5 months! It recharges me so I can entertain him for the second half of the day, and am in a good mood when DH comes home rather than all worn out and grumpy. I'm planning to continue for the rest of my maternity leave ie a whole year.

In fairness I am a lazy moo grin

My twins are nearly one and occasionally most days I nap in the afternoon when they do. Plus they were (and still are) very good sleepers so I am getting 9+ solid hours sleep at night.

DP thinks I am very busy doing housework grin

IShallCallYouSquishy Thu 05-Sep-13 20:11:23

I had a lovely snooze on the sofa while my 15 month old napped this afternoon.

10 weeks old? Christ I still spent whole mornings/afternoons in bed sleeping on and off while she did!

Lazy? No chance. Very sensible? Most definitely smile

bohoec Thu 05-Sep-13 20:14:22

Good grief... You GAVE BIRTH 10 weeks ago. Sleep as much and for as long as you like while you can (I'm back at work now - if it wasn't frowned upon to sleep at your desk I would!)

upanddown83 Thu 05-Sep-13 20:17:37

I have 14 week old ds and love to nap with him we do it often
I just don't tell too many people as I often got comments like you have from your sil so I just stopped telling certin people everything we did especially my ds's eating and sleeping habits saves me listening to their 'advice'!
Enjoy nap time!

Bunbaker Thu 05-Sep-13 20:23:31

Of course you aren't being lazy by catching up with your sleep. I am concerned, however, that you don't feed him in the night when he wakes. He is only 10 weeks old and far too little to go several hours without a feed, regardless of how he is fed. I would just give him a bottle and he might settle more readily.

gintastic Thu 05-Sep-13 20:25:39

3 months old can and should be sleeping through? My 9mo missed that memo, I nap if I get a chance :-) sadly back to work next week and I don't think sleeping at my desk is going to cut it!

Sleep when you can!

Yorkieaddict Thu 05-Sep-13 20:28:05

No you are not being lazy. I used to nap in the day before having DS. I still do when I get chance, although that is not often these days. When you have a tiny baby I would say its the only way to survive with your sanity intact!

mrsharrystyles Thu 05-Sep-13 20:31:55

I like a nice little sleep during the day if I can. My youngest is 19............ Years!!

BrianTheMole Thu 05-Sep-13 20:35:04

Hell, sometime my nearly 4 yr old has a nap in the day. I'm straight in to bed when that happens.

sharond101 Thu 05-Sep-13 22:35:53

Sounds like he needs fed at 2.30am, he is only 10weeks and if he is unsettled until 5am surely you are just leaving him hungry?

HappyGoLuckyGirl Fri 06-Sep-13 00:26:02

So the consensus is that sleeping through the day is definitely not a bad thing. Woo, more sleep for me then grin

Re. the feeding at night, the reason I haven't given him a bottle when he started waking at 2.30 was because he had already done about 10 days straight of sleeping through, from about 9pm til 5/6am, so I know he is fine to go that long without a bottle.

I'm unsure as to why he started waking again (last night was the third night but he slept til 4am) and didn't want to get him used to a bottle again if he wasn't really hungry.

I have decided to feed him tonight if he wakes and see if takes it all or just comfort feeds back to sleep. smile

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