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What happened rowanmumsnet was that it was no longer on the S and B topics list but was in my 'I'm on' list. Last time this happened I just bumped it by adding a post. I think that someone did this for me by posting from their 'I'm on' list, so it is now back on the S and B list. Like jalopy I'm not really bothered about the thread,just mystifed!