DS1 started at secondary school three weeks ago. He has always been a friendly, sociable, confident and quite high-achieving child. He's academically able and has never had problems at school beyond normal playground stuff.
He HATES secondary school. Doesn't want to be there at all. Can't tell me any specifics and when questioned, he talks about quite a few new friends. He isn't struggling to organise himself and is finding the work easy/boring. He has joined in lots of groups, mainly sports and music. He's having no trouble with the journey to school and walks/gets lifts with friends each day.
He just says that he misses his old friends and his old school. I can understand this - he was very happy there, very confident and doing really well. But it breaks my heart that he isn't settling well into the new school. It's a good school and we chose it together with him. Before he started he was excited about going and seemed very pleased to be moving there. He knew several boys who were going there with him, although none were close friends of his.
Anyone with any experiences of Year 7 issues out there? How long did it take your children to settle? I have already spoken to the Head of Year (after DS sent me texts saying that he hates the school, hates everything) who has had a quiet word with DS1. He (Head of Year) told me that DS seems fine, moves around school with a group of friends, and has no specific problems.
Help! Will my happy, confident boy ever return or will he be miserable for ever and will it be all my fault for sending him to the wrong school? How far should I extend my sympathy and at what point should I tell him just to buck up and get on with it??
All advice gratefully received.
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Scatter · 25/09/2013 12:42
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