Hello I'm new to posting here so please bear with me! I am very conflicted about choice of secondary school for ds (special needs but very able) who is due to start in September. I am lucky insofar as I live in an area that has a good many schools that we are eligible to apply for. Where we live there are 2 private and 6 state/non fee schools. We were advised to apply to several to increase the chances of being accepted in one so we applied to 1 private and 3 non fee paying. To our surprise he was accepted in all 4 and we have been narrowing it down since. We declined the private place as state schools around here are typically very good, and are about to turn down an all boys RC (very good but very sporty school) as he might not fit in there too well. This leaves us with 2 options.
School A is top performing, very academically pushy and ultra strict. The high standards and strictness would suit ds who likes rules and targets. Families we know who chose it are mostly happy but they don't have SN children. A third of his current mainstream class will go there so he will know someone at least.This is his preferred school.
School B is more easygoing and flexible by comparison but in a good way - we are hearing very good reports from parents that their children are happy and doing well. DS doesn't want to go to School B as he will know no-one there and finds the social side of things very difficult. From speaking to both schools it's becoming clear he will get far more support in School B. He did entrance exams in school A and got reprimanded off for wandering off to look at a display on a wall when he should have been in line. He didn't seem to realise he was being chided but I cant help but wonder if this is not indicative of how things will be for him there. He is prone to getting distracted and forgetting things. For this reason DH and I feel school B would meet his needs best.
We have tried discussing the differences in the 2 schools with him and he is insisting he wants to go to school A because "you have to work hard". He says he's determined to prove himself and I do believe he could do well there with the right kind of support but I question now whether he is likely to get that there. He needs support at school now and manages well with it but still has off days when he gets frustrated etc. We need to give one school a final answer by the end of this month.
Has anyone any advice ? We have considered letting him try School A first and moving him if need be but there's unlikely to be a place in School B then as demand is high all around here (Dublin).
Sorry for the long post - my mind is so overloaded with this at the moment.
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microcosmia · 09/02/2012 00:00
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