Me again.
Quick backstory - I've managed to find my dad in Canada, having not seen him since I was a baby. I have been chatting to his cousin who is lovely and very supportive, but silence and no response to e-mails from my dad.
Until last night.
Got an e-mail from him, apologising for the delay due to health reasons (I am aware from his cousin that he has had cancer in the recent past) and also as he didn't know how to tell me that he's not my dad.
He says that my mother is a lunatic woman prone to rearranging the world mentally to fit her idea of what should be (true!) and he feels that is what she has done by always telling me he is my dad.
Canadian alleged dad found out when trying to concieve with his wife that he was in fact sterile, and always had been.
Another
I guess he can't be my dad then. Canadian obviously not dad says that my dad's name is 'Fred Bloggs' and that he didn't know him very well, sorry that he has no more information.
Funny thing is that me and dh found out we couldn't have kids together pretty much the same way.
I sent Canadian-not-my-dad-guy (following so far?!!) pictures of my dd in my last e-mail, he said she is beautiful and he is very sad that he cannot be her grandfather, and isn't able to call me his daughter, as I seem so nice. And would I like to carry on corresponding with him please?
I think that this lovely elderly couple would like to 'adopt' us as we dont have any grandparents and they never had any children!
Half of me is in total shock, my mother is even more nasty than I thought, she has lied to me all those years, and part of me feels that I have no fucking clue who I am (although of course I do) and another part of me feels that he isn't my dad but he seems rather lovely, and I feel like I am a part of his family.
Crikey.
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Nemofish · 06/07/2010 12:45
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