I know you shouldn't get involved in other people relationships but this is a very good friend and I am not getting involved other than to listen to her. However I just want other peoples opinions on his behaviour and whether ir not he is being a bit controlling or not. It is worrying me but I think maybe I am a bit to close to my friend to see things without being biased.
My friend is a very emotional person particularly at certain times of the month. In other words she can go off on one and is a bit of a drama queen. She is aware of this and accepts that at time she builds problems up where there are in fact none.
She and her DP got engaged about a year ago and were due to get married this year but have had to put it on hold for family reasons. Since then his has been reluctant to talk about the wedding at all - says it is stressing him out. He won't even plan dates and is allowing my friend to sell the wedding dress she brought in order to raise some money.
They live together and have done for several years. They share things financially and pay jointly for both the house, car and bills. However he recently refused to renew the insurance for her on the car as it was going to cost too much (she is a new driver). So now she is unable to drive the car she has being paying for jointly!
What has also been worrying me is the fact that he goes out several weekends in a row with his mates leaving her at home alone. He also tells her repeatedly that her "behaviour is unacceptable" when she cries and needs a bit of emotional reassurance. He rarely talks to her properly.
Having written this down it now seems very obvious where this is going!
She however still loves him. She even said "shall I ring him?" (after he walked out) "but I am afraid too in case it upsets him". How can I help her?
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"Your behaviour is unacceptable" he says repeatedly
lavenderbongo · 05/07/2010 23:19
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