This is just to follow on as I asked a question on JesusWhatNext's thread and didn't want to take over that.
Basically I suspect dh has a drinking problem. He has a few drinks every day unless there is a reason he can't (not very often). Occasionally he drinks enough to pass out on the sofa (not that often - every other month / once a month?)
When I have tried to talk to him about it before, he hasn't really responded. However I've always said it in an indirect way (like 'maybe you need to think about your drinking habits?') and yesterday on JWN's thread, MIFLAW advised that I ask directly 'Why do you drink so much?' which I did and to which dh replied 'I don't drink that much'. He then went on to explain that different cultures have different attitudes to alcohol (he and I are from different countries) and that I am someone who always needs something to worry about so I have probably started worrying about his drinking since my exams have finished and so exam stress is over (actually I have tried to talk about his drinking before but am rubbish at that sort of thing and apparently haven't explained myself well enough - he didn't really say anything when I told him that).
It did feel like he was blaming me for making an issue out of nothing without actually saying it directly, but maybe I am over-analysing.
Should also say that I may sound like I am completely anti-alcohol but I do like the odd drink now and then and have done the standard student piss-ups pre-children. It just seems to be becoming more of an issue with me for some reason that I instantly tense up the moment I see him opening a can of beer or pouring a glass of wine when he gets in from work. He always offers me a drink too and gets antsy when I say no thank you (he jokes that 'oh that's right, you never like to drink beer with your husband, only ever your friends' - this is not true, I will occasionally have a beer or glass of wine with him, but only really at the weekend or every other weekend as I don't really feel like it often).
Sorry, this is a bit of a rubbish post. I've re-written it quite a few times and keep deleting it but it's something I can't stop thinking about so probably good to get off my chest.
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Suspect dh has a problem with alcohol and not sure what I can do (if anything?)
galaxydunkedincoffee · 30/06/2010 12:08
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