Need a bit of history here I am afraid
DH has not worked for about two years. He doesn't need to and doesn't really have the inclination to go back to work and TBH I don't want him to go back to work in the same kind of job he was doing, however, I do think he needs to do something because he is bright and I worry about the example it will set to our children in the future (his father stayed at home and DH did not have very much respect for him). I have been trying to encourage him to pursue other things by suggesting teaching and othr possible careers (at least I thought I was).
Recently, he has had a couple of informal business meetings about a project he is trying to start and I am sort of taking a bit of a hands off approach as once before he got all excited about a business and it never happened.
DH and I had a huge argument this morning which was initiated by me as over the past two weeks I have been feeling like he has not been too helpful with DS. The argument started over something small however, I am pregnant and was feeling really emotional and sensitive and instead just blew up and told him how I was feeling.
Anyway, I thought that we had resolved the problem this morning and this afternoon when I came back from being out with DS he was really quiet with me. I asked him what the problem was. He said "nothing, just tired". All afternoon he has been like this until 2 hours ago when he brought it up again. We managed to resolve the argument properly but then he started saying that I always say really hurtful things during arguments for instance, saying to him that his lunches sound more social than business; that I make him feel useless; and that he thinks I would be happy for him to do anything just to get him out of the house. I don't think I have ever said these things except about his lunches but that really was only in jest. I am always telling him that I love him and that I would be happy for him to do whatever he wanted so long as he is happy doing it.
I am really starting to find it hard being supportive to him and I actually am not sure I know how to be. It feels like he completely misinterprets my intentions. However, ATM it seems that no matter what I say it is the wrong thing.
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AliGrylls · 18/06/2010 21:21
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