My Ex:
Had numerous affairs the first of which when I was 7 months pregnant.
Paid for sex.
Used Sex lines and internet porn.
Stole from the family.
Would disappear for days at a time and then just turn up as though nothing had happened.
Never lifted a finger round the house.
Would call me lazy and a bad mother if I ever asked for help with housework or childcare.
Would keep nearly all his wages for himself and use them to drink and gamble.
Ran up massive amounts of debt in both our names.
Was verbally abusive towards me if I ever tried to discuss the above with him.
Was physically abusive to me on at least 10 occasions.
Would drink himself into oblivion almost every night and then never get up with his dc the next day. In two years of primary school he only every took his dc about 6 times even though his shift work allowed him to be home every morning to do it.
All this was my fault apparently because I Nagged him.
Didn't sleep with him enough.
Was trying to cut his balls off as man
Didn't let him be the man of the house
Why did I allow this for so long? Why did I allow my dc to live in this environment for so long? They didn't see any of it I made sure of that.
I just feel so sad and shrivelled. I don't know if I will ever feel right again.
You don't need to reply to this I just wanted to write it down.
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WhydidIallowthis · 09/06/2010 11:02
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