Bf relationships

[tillywee]

Hi all,
Just wanted some perspective on my bf relationship issues. She split from her DH a few years ago, since that time she has had a very bad 15mth relationship with a younger guy..he had no job the whole time, she paid for everything...rent, bills, food she bought him a ps3, ipod, mobile phones, clothes a new harddrive.

He never gave her a penny of his benefit money, was a waster. That ended 9mths ago.

Since then she has been with a guy who didn't want a woman with DC's..she has two.....now this latest 'prize', he has just split with his wife and has 3 DD's.....he is sounding very similar to her ex....they have already met each others kids after 5 bloody minutes.

Suppose what I want to know is what to say to her.....why is she always rushing with these no hopers? I think she likes the idea of 'saving' a man to be quite honest.

I just worry for the DC's on both sides...her DC's have had to contend with divorce and crap men...is it wrong to be angry on there behalf for all this upheaval and drama?

[seeyoukay]

Just tell her to stop dating knob heads. But you can't change someone if she's hell bent on self destruction she'll get there.

[2rebecca]

Some women go for lame ducks and selfish losers.
I suspect I'm too blunt to remain best friends with a woman who was attracted to these sorts of guys as I would tell her I thought she was being stupid and should look at the patterns her relationships followed.
I don't see anything wrong with introducing new boyfriends to your kids, as long as they are initially introduced as a friend and weren't coming round to stay after 5 minutes and wanting to play cosy couples and being referred to as a stepfather.
I find women and men who go out with someone for 6 months before letting their kids know of their existence stranger, that sort of compartmentalisation of your life seems odd to me. You wouldn't do it with a same sex friend.